Does your boyfriend party without you? Does this happen often? Do you not know how to react? If the answer to all these questions is “yes”, hopefully, this article will provide a bit of enlightenment and help you figure out what to do about it.
This topic came to our mind after watching a couple who have a problem on one of Netflix’s top-rated reality tv shows. A couple from “Love never lies” has been arguing over this topic a lot. And, we couldn’t help but try and help any woman that goes or went through similar misfortune.
If your boyfriend is constantly partying without you, it can be a difficult situation to navigate. On one hand, you don’t want to care about it, but on the other, you feel left out and you have the right to feel this way and to confront them about it all if you want things to change.
Why does my boyfriend party without me?
The first thing you should do is determine why your boyfriend is partying without you. One of the best ways to do that is to sit down and ask them. Once you know, you will be able to respond to the situation accordingly.
Now, consider that it’s not uncommon for boyfriends to party without their girlfriends when they are being unfaithful and they are not respectful of the boundaries that come with being in a relationship.
It’s important not to jump to conclusions, but it’s equally important to be aware of the problem. What he says when you ask him about it will help you determine if he has a legitimate reason or not, and you can go from there.
We want to clarify that there are two common reasons why boyfriends party without their girlfriends that are innocent enough, such:
1- You Have Different Personalities:
If your boyfriend is very outgoing and truly enjoys partying but you don’t, he may not feel inclined to include you in his plans. If you’ve both agreed to do that, it shouldn’t be a problem.
However, if you are okay with partying and he doesn’t invite you anyway, then something else may be going on.
2- You Don’t Like His Friends or Vice Versa:
The second common and innocent-enough reason is: you don’t like his friends or they don’t like you. If you’ve met your boyfriend’s friends and you didn’t get along, it makes sense he doesn’t invite you to party with them.
That’s not necessarily a bad thing every once in a while because you also get to party with your own friends without him. However, if you’re constantly being left out, it may be time for you to make an effort to connect with his friends and build a bridge to connect with them.
How to stop your boyfriend from partying without you?
Before we go into this section, it’s very important to note that you can’t force your boyfriend to do anything. If he doesn’t want to take you with him when he goes out to a party, even after you try the following tips, you simply won’t be able to force him.
At that point, you have to reconsider the relationship. Do you want to be with someone who doesn’t like to have fun with you and doesn’t even make an effort to make you feel included in his life? Food for thought. If you’re not ready to give up, here are a few things you can do to see if the situation improves:
– Talk to Him:
Let’s face it, men can be beyond oblivious sometimes. That means there’s a chance he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong because he just doesn’t know you care.
That’s why the first thing you should do is talk to your boyfriend about it and explain how left out you feel when you’re not included in his party plans. If he didn’t know you felt that way, he may start including you and things can go up from there. If nothing changes, this might not be the relationship for you.
– Ask if you can come:
It’s likely your boyfriend is not inviting you to a party because he doesn’t think you’ll be up for it. So, the next time he says he has plans to go out, ask if you can go with him.
The way he responds to this will tell you a lot. If he makes excuses for you not to go even after you’ve shown interest, that’s a big red flag that needs to be addressed.
– Invite him when you party:
If you are going partying and you don’t usually invite your boyfriend, you should consider doing it. Including him in your friend group can inspire him to do the same if he hasn’t already and it can be a good way to show him how much fun you can have together.
The bottom line:
If you’ve been honest with your boyfriend about wanting to party with him more often and how awful it is to be left out, something should change.
If it doesn’t, you have to think about your future together. He may be hiding something or having affairs, be it emotional or physical ones, he surely is doing something dodgy!
Relationships are about compromise, but it shouldn’t be a compromise to want your boyfriend to include you in his nightlife or the activities he enjoys!