It can be frustrating, perplexing, and downright hurtful when someone doesn’t seem to value you. Whether it’s a romantic partner, a friend, or a family member, it can be tough to see someone you care about treating you like you don’t matter.
But it’s important to remember that this says nothing about you as a person. There is nothing wrong with you, and there is nothing you can do to change how someone else feels or acts naturally. The best you can do is focus on taking care of yourself and surround yourself with people who make you feel valued.
With time and effort, you’ll find the strength to move on from this hurtful situation, but until then if you’re hesitating let us give you even more reasons to put yourself first and choose to walk away.
5 reasons why you should walk away when someone doesn’t value you:
1- Staying might cause you to become self-conscious and insecure:
If someone doesn’t see your worth, it’s time to walk away. You shouldn’t have to convince someone of your worth, especially not if it makes you feel small and insignificant. You might end up getting convinced that you’re worth nothing rather than convincing them that you have value.
So keep in mind that dealing with such poisonous thinking can affect not only your self-esteem and self-confidence but it can cause you to develop lifelong issues and anxiety. If they can’t see that you’re special, unique and that you are deserving of the absolute best, then they’re not worth your time.
2-The faster you move on, the quicker you can find someone better:
There’s no point in wasting your time on people who don’t value you. If you move on faster you might find someone who will appreciate you for who you are quicker. Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t see your worth. So walk away and find someone who does.
In fact, you don’t want to waste your time on someone who doesn’t appreciate you and if you do then you’ll probably regret it years down the line. There are plenty of people out there who would love to have you in their lives, so don’t settle for someone who doesn’t see your worth.
Again we only live once so let’s not spend that one shot at life on someone who doesn’t value us. So if you find yourself in a situation where someone isn’t treating you right, walk away and don’t look back. You deserve better than that.
3- They will probably never change:
If someone doesn’t value you, keep in mind that they already decided how much you deserve and what you’re gonna receive from them so chances are that will never change. This is something you have to realize and accept. If you want to be treated differently, you can ask but it won’t magically make you precious in their eyes.
It will just look like someone insignificant that is barking up the wrong tree and wanting special treatment. The fact is that they already decided what category of people to put you in.
So if they put you in a category that says this person is low maintenance and I can get away with doing nothing or doing the bare minimum for them, then chances are they won’t upgrade you to a better category just because you asked.
In their mind, you will still be someone who doesn’t matter much and who is feeling too entitled to ask for an amazing treatment. In the end, you have to be the one who accepts that it’s hard to change people’s beliefs and opinions of others and just walk away. No matter what you do or how much you try to please them, they will still not value you the way you deserve.
4- It can be draining and depressing to be around them:
For someone to openly act like they don’t value you and like you’re nothing at all to them, when you clearly care about their opinion, they have to be a piece of work! Another characteristic that we can guess that this person probably has is being judgemental: because how did they even come to the conclusion or judgment that you’re not worth much, if not?
Another personality trait of theirs could be that they’re simply full of themselves and perceive themselves to be of great importance and superior to everyone else. And that’s how they feel comfortable on top of their high horse whilst judging who will be valued by them and who won’t.
So if this person is truly judgemental and full of themselves too, then being around them can be super draining and tiresome. You are probably better off without them. They will never see how great you can be because they are blindly focused on their arrogance and entitlement. So do not waste your time on someone who doesn’t see your value, and who’s a horrible person too.
Instead, find someone who will appreciate you for who you are. They are out there, and they are waiting for you. Don’t settle for anything less.
5- The relationship will always be off-balance if you stay:
If someone doesn’t value you, it’s probably best to walk away because you will never be able to have a normal relationship based on give-and-take. There’s no point in trying to stick around and change their mind; if they don’t see your worth, they’re not going to change their opinion, as we explained earlier.
And let’s say they do come around somehow, even then the relationship will always be off-balance and you’ll always be wondering whether they really do value you or not. You’ll always feel like you have to do way more to please them. You can check this article here on one-sided relationships and decide if that’s something you want for yourself because that’s all you’ll be getting with someone like that.
Rather than spend your life trying to fix this dilemma, it’s better to find someone who sees your worth from the start and is willing to put in the effort to show you how much they care.