Mixed signals can be frustrating. So if you’re seeing a guy that has been demonstrating contradictory behavior; it can be confusing. If that’s the case, try to give him some space and see what happens.
If he’s interested in you, he’ll eventually make his feelings clear and will not be able to stay clear for long. But, in the meantime, enjoying your own life and keeping yourself busy is the best way to handle the situation.
Either way, you must be wondering what his reasons are for giving you so many mixed signals and that’s what we will be discussing here today.
Why is he sending mixed signals?
1- He’s not ready for commitment:
If you’re wondering why he’s giving you mixed signals, it’s probably because he’s not ready for a relationship. He might be interested in you, but he’s not sure if he wants to take things to the next level or commit.
In fact, if he’s giving you mixed signals, one likely reason could be because he’s not ready for a committed relationship. He may be enjoying the attention and the physical intimacy, but he’s not ready to take things to the next level. This can be frustrating, but it’s important to remember that you can’t make someone do something they’re not ready for. If he’s not ready for a serious relationship, no amount of pressuring or cajoling is going to change that.
The best thing you can do is respect his wishes and move on. To help you do just that think about checking our article later on about reasons to walk away if he doesn’t commit. There are plenty of other guys out there who are ready and willing to commit and who will deem you worthy enough of it, so don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t.
2- He is not sure you’re worth it:
Another reason he’s giving you mixed signals could be because he’s not sure he likes you. He may find you interesting and he may be attracted to you, but he also probably sees some flaws in you that he can’t ignore. In this case, you have nothing to do with someone that literally needs convincing that you’re good enough.
If he’s not ready to commit and is sending mixed signals, it could be because he couldn’t make his mind up about whether he should chase you or just forget it all.
You probably have things that make him interested but they’re not good enough to make him turn a blind eye to other qualities of yours he might not be fond of. Maybe he likes your personality but isn’t physically attracted to you, in which case he must be conflicted about whether dating you is the right choice. If he really liked you, he would be much more clear about his feelings and more sure about what he wants and what type of signals he wants to be sending you consistently.
So our advice again would be to move on in this case too and find someone who is more sure of themselves and their feelings for you and sees you as the full package rather than think they have to compromise and settle for less by going for you. There’s no point in pursuing something with someone who is lukewarm at best.
3- He wants to keep you around while he’s looking out for better options:
If someone’s giving you mixed signals, it’s usually intentional. They might be trying to string you along or keep their options open. Or, they could just be playing games and enjoying the attention. Whatever the reason, it’s not worth your time and energy to pursue someone who isn’t interested in giving you a straight answer.
That’s because they could be trying to keep you around and lead you on indirectly, while they’re waiting for a better deal than yourself. Maybe they have every intention of committing to you but not before making sure there are no better options or opportunities on the horizon. So is it even worth it to be someone’s second choice when there isn’t even a first choice in the first place?
Just move on and find someone who’s more clear about what they want. Life’s too short to waste time on people who don’t know what they want.
4- He doesn’t know what he wants:
Maybe in the end he’s giving you mixed signals simply because he doesn’t know what he wants. He may be indecisive and struggles to make decisions in general, not just when it comes to you. It could not even be personal and maybe he would’ve acted the same even with the most awesome and the most attractive girl alive. He might just not be sure what he wants and he’s taking his time to figure it out.
However, ask yourself if this is what you’re looking for in a partner yourself. Would you want to be with someone who genuinely just cannot make up their mind about any decision in life at all? In this case, they’ll probably let you carry every single burden and responsibility in the relationship and make all the decisions alone so that they can never be blamed for anything at all.
Having high standards is important and deciding that you’re not gonna accept such a person is okay and valid. You’re entitled to pick what you want in a partner in the end and especially if it’s something as basic as being able to make a decision!
Whatever the case may be, again; it’s not worth your time and energy to try and decipher this type of guy’s intentions. Especially when he himself doesn’t have it all figured out yet. It’s best to move on and find someone who is more straightforward with their feelings. Check this article out on how to recognize a guy that doesn’t know what he wants, if you’re not sure if that’s the case.