So he told you he didn’t want a relationship. You were having such a great time together, you believed him and you knew you had to respect his wishes. But then, not even a month later, he’s dating someone new.
It hurts because you thought you had something special, but now it’s clear that he was just stringing you along the whole time. You might even be trying to move on and focus on yourself now, but it’s tough when you see him happy with someone else…
If this scenario sounds way too familiar to you or if it sounds like it’s describing the few last months or weeks of your life, then this article will bring you closure. In this article, we go through a few common reasons why a guy that told to you he wasn’t ready for a relationship, committed to the first next girl he met.
This is why he said he didn’t want a relationship but now he has a girlfriend:
1- He rejected you in a gentle manner:
If a guy said he didn’t want a relationship, but now he has a girlfriend. There’s nothing you can do about it, other than not take it personally. Maybe, he just wasn’t that into you or you’re simply not his type. It’s not you, it’s him.
He didn’t want to hurt your feelings, so he rejected you gently. Instead of getting upset, remember that there are plenty of other guys out there who would love to be in a relationship with you.
Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t want you. All he did is reject you in an indirect manner, which is still nice of him. You can’t really say that he led you on or wasted your time because he warned you that nothing will come out of it.
Regardless of the excuse that he made like “not being ready” or whatever other excuse, in the end, he didn’t promise you a thing. So move on and find someone who will think from day one that you’re just his cup of tea.
2- You don’t understand that guys will flirt anyway:
Guys will flirt regardless of whether they’re actually interested or not. Chances are if he said he didn’t want a relationship, he was never interested in you in the first place. So that was his way of warning you not to expect or want more.
But, obviously, he wasn’t gonna insult you either or tell you what it is about you that he doesn’t like much. It would’ve probably hurt you or even made you cry yourself to sleep, so why should he be so harsh and heartless?!
In fact, most guys will still flirt even when they’re not interested, because of a list of possible reasons that you can later find in this article. So be aware that a guy that’s flirting with you is not necessarily a guy that’s interested in having a relationship with you. It could be a guy who just wants to have fun and see where things go.
He just selected you to do that with because you’re the one available and in front of him. Otherwise, he would’ve probably selected someone who’s closer to his criteria. Well, if he found them first.
Clearly, if he said the truth as it is and as we just told you, then he wouldn’t have had a chance to go anywhere with you at all. That’s why he simply said that he’s not ready for something serious. You should’ve gotten the hint. He still tried his luck anyway, which is expected when dealing with guys.
It’s best to move on now and find someone who is actually interested in you. Don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t.
3- The girl he ended up with changed his mind:
Another possibility could be that he didn’t lie after all. He could’ve told you the truth and really didn’t feel like he was ready to commit. But then, all that changed when he met the girl he is committed to now. Maybe he thought she was so good that he made an exception for her and made her his girlfriend in no time.
It’s no secret that most of us don’t know what we want until we see it. In fact, when we go shopping it’s not like we know the exact dress, its’ color, and the cut and design that we’re looking for. We keep looking and then when our eyes meet “the one”, we try it on and then we realize that it’s what we want.
And that must be exactly what happened with this girl. He might have met her but then had to change his expectations and became “ready” for her specifically. Or maybe he just changed his mind. Who knows? The important thing is that you’re not with him now and you have to move on.
There’s someone out there who will want to be with you; or who will know you’re what he needed all along the moment he gets to know you. You just have to go find him and leave all this behind!
4- He just used you for convenience:
He said he didn’t want a relationship but now he has a girlfriend, and in this case, one thing to consider is that he might have used you as a placeholder until the real deal shows up. Maybe, he used you for convenience, and when he found someone he actually wanted to be with, he quickly snuck out of the entire situation he had with you, without a second thought.
It hurts it’s harsh but it could be the truth, plus you’re better off without him. You deserve someone who actually wants to be with you, not someone who is just using you for an easy lay. Don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t worth it. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
Hopefully, someday you’ll find someone who actually wants to be with me, and not just use you for convenience.
He said he didn’t want a relationship, but now he has a girlfriend. It’s sad and even tragic, but it’s how things went. Perphaps he changed his mind. Or maybe he just wants to see what it was like to be in a relationship. Either way, it’s not really any of your business.
You should learn something from this and be happy for him. If you can’t help but feel a little bit jealous, then know that these feelings are very temporary and don’t mean that you like him, they just mean you’re hurt that you got rejected.
Maybe you wish you had been the one who was able to change his mind about relationships. But alas, that’s not how things worked out. Now you’re single and he’s taken. Such is life. In the end, we’re pretty sure that this article here will teach you a thing on how to deal with a guy that wants you to chase him.
Because maybe he just wanted you to make mroe efforts and chanse him more, but be glad not to have stooped down to that level.