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When you’re in love with someone who’s taken

When you’re in love with someone who’s taken

Being in love with someone who’s taken can be frustrating. You may see the person every day, but you can’t act on your feelings. Even though it’s difficult, you know that you need to respect the other person’s relationship.

In some cases, you may even be friends with the person you’re in love with. This can make things even more complicated, but it also gives you a front-row seat to their life. You may feel like you’re living in torture, but seeing the person you love happy can also be its own special type of reward.

Ultimately, being in love with someone who’s taken is a test of your patience and resolve. Some might say that you should wait and that it can also be one of the most rewarding experiences imaginable. However, this is not what we recommend, as it could be pointless and that person could end up marrying or committing forever to their current partner.

This article will explain to you in detail what you need to do if you find yourself in this unfortunate situation.

What to do when I’m in love with someone who’s in love with someone else?

1- Respect their relationship and move on:

Assuming you’re not the significant other in question, the best thing you can do about liking someone who’s already in a relationship is to respect their relationship and move on. It’s not worth getting yourself worked up over someone who is already in a committed relationship.

Chances are, even if they return your affections, it would only lead to heartache down the line. There is plenty of other fish in the sea, so focus your energy on finding someone who is available and who will appreciate your attention.

2- Cut your losses short:

It’s true that one of the hardest things to do is move on from someone you love, especially if they’re already in a relationship and it hurts like hell. It can be tempting to hold out hope that they’ll eventually realize they’re with the wrong person and come running to you someday. But, logically and rationally this is the last thing you want to do!

If you find yourself in this situation, it’s important to cut your losses and move on. Don’t wait around for someone who’s already taken. There’s no guarantee that they would’ve selected you or wanted to be with you, even if they weren’t already in a relationship.

And, if they gave you any hint that they’d actually be with you if they weren’t taken then that’s still cheating on their current partner which is something they could do to you too if you ever get with one another. In the end, there’s no scenario where this situation ends well by waiting. Live your life and focus on finding someone who loves you back just as much as you love them.

There’s no harm in being a good friend to the person you’re in love with or even listening to them when they need to vent about anything. However, if that friendship is just hurting you then cut your losses even more and end it. Getting close to them with the hope that they will someday return the favor and show any type of romantic feelings for you can only end in a bad way. It will hurt you first, before hurting anyone else.

3- Think about their oblivious and innocent partner:

Clearly, it will be hard to get you to feel any type of compassion for the partner of the person you’re interested in. After all, you probably think that they’re very lucky and hit the jackpot by finding first and being with someone so charming and captivating.

But how about you try to them of them differently. Think about if you were the partner in question and someone like yourself has taken interest in your significant other and is literally waiting or maybe even wishing death upon you, so they can butt in and steal the love of your life.

Well, you might not be so cruel as to wish horrible things like the death of their partner, but are you not wishing a hurtful break-up on them at least? Would you have wanted someone to do this to you after you finally find a special someone?

Chances are, the answer is no. So think about how their partner would feel if they knew about your feelings. It’s not fair to them, and it’s not fair to the person you’re in love with either because after all they willingly chose to love and be with whoever they’re with. The best thing to do is move on and find someone who’s available. Trust us, it’ll be worth it in the end.

4- Limit your interactions:

Being in love with someone who is already in a relationship can be tough. You may find yourself wanting to spend every waking moment with them, but it’s important to limit your interactions, cut your losses short like we said and leave them alone.

If you’re constantly around them, it will be difficult for them to focus on their current relationship, while having you try to convey some indirect messages. Plus, seeing them all the time may just end up being a reminder of what you cannot have. It’s better to limit your interactions to once a week or less; if you necessarily have to meet or see them.

That way, you can give them the space they need to focus on their current relationship and you won’t be torturing yourself either, by constantly being around them. Who knows, maybe you’d find someone who’s a perfect match for you before the next time you see them.

Or, at least, you would’ve forgotten about all the great things about them that make you weak at your knees by the time you would’ve spent a few weeks or months away. Keep in mind that you don’t want to end up being stuck in a “situationship” or becoming the other woman for these reasons.

And, you don’t want to be a home-wrecker either by simply breaking them up to be with that person. So there’s literally no way around making this a happy ending with the person in question!

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