Maybe you’re in two minds about whether or not to call it quits in a relationship. On the one hand, you may feel like you’ve given it your all and there’s nothing left to salvage. On the other hand, you fear regretting your decision if you walk away from something that could have been great or even fixed.
No one said love was easy. In fact, sometimes it can be downright tough. Even the strongest relationships have their ups and downs, but there comes a point where you have to ask yourself whether the good outweighs the bad.
Ultimately, it comes down to what feels right for you and we can help you get to that point with this article. Check the conditions display below if one of them, a couple or more apply then it may be time to call it quits.
6 Conditions to call it quits on a relationship:
1- Fighting all the time:
If you find yourself constantly fighting with your partner or if you cannot let an hour or two go by without offending one another, it may be time to call it quits.
Of course, ending a relationship is never easy, and it’s important to make sure that you’re doing it for the right reasons. But if you’re tired of being angry, on the defensive and always having to justify your every move because your partner is ready to pounce on you all the time; then it may be a red flag.
It may be a sign to walk away. Life is too short to waste your time on someone who is only focused on the negatives, bitter, cannot stand you, and is always ready to fight. So ask yourself if that’s you rather than your partner.
If the problem is in you instead, then try to find the real reason behind your constant anger or built-up resentment for your partner. If you feel that the problem is your partner instead then try to talk to them calmly and if they don’t want to listen; it’s definitely time to call it quits.
2- You feel underappreciative:
You might think that the major signs that it’s time to end a relationship are things like cheating or physical abuse. Yes, these can be major red flags and deal-breakers that we will discuss in detail in the next point.
However, you have to know that more often, the smaller signs can be just as important. For example, if you feel underappreciated, it might be a sign that your partner isn’t valuing your contributions to the relationship. One of the worst things ever is to feel underappreciated in your romantic relationship; which is supposed to be the bigger ego-booster and source of happiness and love in your life.
If you repeatedly find yourself repetitively getting blamed and reprimanded or if your partner can’t help but point your flaws at every chance they get, then it can be draining. It says nothing about you as a person though, it could very much say that you’re just not compatible.
And if you’re just not happy, then it might be time to move on. Of course, only you can know for sure when it’s time to call it quits. But if you’re starting to feel like your relationship is more trouble than it’s worth; for any reason, then it might be time to reassess things. So don’t feel that, just because nothing major happened that could cause a breakup, you’re not entitled to end things. You don’t even need to explain yourself all that much if a relationship stops being fulfilling and rewarding.
3- Your partner has committed a grave unforgivable mistake:
If your partner has done something that you consider to be a grave, unforgivable mistake, it may be time to call it quits.
This could be something like financial infidelity, cheating on you, lying to you about a major life decision, talking bad about you behind your back harming you, etc. You can later check this article for a longer list of things that most people find hard to forgive in relationships.
If you’re struggling to forgive your partner for what they’ve done, it’s likely that the relationship is no longer healthy for either of you. It’s important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who makes you feel safe and loved. So if your partner failed to do that or if they can’t consistently provide that, it may be time to move on.
4- There’s no love or respect:
If you’re in a toxic situation, it may be time to let go even if it’s scary. But if there’s still love and respect present, it may be worth fighting for. Relationships are never easy, but they can be so worth it and maybe you’re just going through a bad phase; especially if your partner is generally respectful and loving.
In other words, one of the most important signs that it’s time to call it quits is a lack of love or respect. If you no longer feel any love or respect for your partner, or if you think they don’t, then it’s likely that the relationship is no longer meeting your needs.
Additionally, if your partner consistently mistreats you or fails to show you basic courtesy and respect, it’s probably time to move on. In a healthy relationship, both partners should feel loved and respected, so if that’s no longer the case, it may be time to call it quits.
5- You want to end things:
In the end, there’s no one definitive sign that it’s time to call it quits in a relationship. If you’re asking this question then that in itself is a sign that you’re not happy in your current relationship.
Sometimes, it’s a gradual realization that you’re no longer feeling fulfilled and happy. Other times, you might have a specific moment or event that makes you realize the relationship isn’t what you want it to be.
But generally speaking, you shouldn’t feel like you need a valid reason to break up with someone, as explained before. If you’re not happy in the relationship, then that’s enough of a reason. Don’t stay in a situation just because you don’t see an easy way out; sometimes, the best thing you can do is walk away. Check this article out later on why breaking up when nothing seems to be wrong is valid.
6- You think the relationship is beyond repair:
in the end, if you think the relationship is beyond repair and feel very reluctant to make an effort to fix things then it may be time to move on.
Relationships can go through rough patches but it takes faith and confidence in the relationship to try and work on fixing things collectively as a couple. If one of you lost interest in trying because they think it’s a lost cause then you may as well call it quits.
So, if you’re not able to work through problems together, or if you’re no longer working on anything together with your partner, it may be time to move on. Ultimately, only you can decide when it’s time to call it quits, but if you or your partner deem the relationship to be beyond repair then, it may be time to let go. Check this article out for signs that a relationship is beyond repair to help you decide.