It’s happened to everyone at some point: you meet a new neighbor and find out that they’re surprisingly or unexpectedly attractive, and suddenly you can’t stop thinking about them.
If you’re lucky, you might get to know them better and develop a real relationship. But sometimes, the object of your affections remains just out of reach. Many people would rather not be so close with their neighbors as it can create conflict or tension if for some reason relationship runs its course.
So if you find yourself crushing on a neighbor, there are a few things you can do to try and control the situation before it gets out of hand.
Steps to take when you have a crush on your neighbor:
1- Respect their privacy:
It’s always a little awkward when you have a crush on a neighbor. On the one hand, you see them every day and it’s easy to get to know them. On the other hand, you don’t want to make things awkward by being too forward.
So keep in mind that whatever you do the best thing is ultimately to respect their privacy and give them space. If they’re interested in you, they’ll let you know. Otherwise, it’s best to just enjoy the sight of their beauty from a distance whenever you see them coincidentally.
Who knows, perhaps if you give them space and time they might think it’s safe to get close to you, and maybe you’ll even become friends. However, if they don’t then you need to respect them and let go.
2- Don’t become a stalker:
It’s perfectly normal to develop a crush on your neighbor. After all, you see them every day and you have plenty of opportunities to admire their good looks or great personality. However, it’s important to keep your feelings in check and avoid turning into a stalker.
So the way to make sure you stay as cool as a cucumber is by not weirding them out. First of all, don’t make it obvious that you’re crushing on them. Play it cool and act like you would around any other friend or acquaintance. Secondly, don’t go out of your way to talk to them or spend time with them or pretend to meet them coincidentally every time they step out of their house. If they seem interested in talking to you, great; if not, don’t take it personally and move on.
Finally, don’t get too attached. Remember that they’re just your neighbor and not your soulmate. If things don’t look promising, it’s no big deal. Just move on and find someone else to crush on!
3- Consider what it could mean to date your neighbor:
Everyone has had a crush on their neighbor at some point, right? It’s perfectly natural. They’re close by, you see them all the time, and you have something in common: your love of tolerating each other’s noise and mistakes. However, not everyone will fantasize about dating their neighbor; especially not cautious and smart folks.
Dating your neighbor can only ever be a bad idea. Here’s why: if things go south, you’ll probably have to move houses and no one wants to deal with that hassle. Especially if you own your house and it took you years to even pay a portion of your mortgage, deciding or having to sell it to avoid an ex can become a bitter necessity.
You might want to consider avoiding having little romances around the area where you live, as things can get messy. Not to mention that your neighbor can literally tell if you’re still dating others while seeing them or stalk you or even do worse, etc. You live next to each other, remember? So, it’s better to just enjoy the fantasy from afar before quickly moving on.
Should you make an effort to date your neighbor?
Well, let’s just say we don’t recommend at all dating your neighbor for obvious reasons: Who wants to even meet their ex again or see their face? Most people don’t. So to have to see your ex for the rest of your life and possibly see their spouse and kids too or be their neighbor forever can easily be the subject of nightmares!
However, if you’re a bit stubborn and determined to go after your irresistible neighbor then we’d say you can try to strike up a conversation whenever you see them. If they seem friendly, invite them over for coffee or a drink and get the ball rolling from there.
But, if all else fails because they’re too reserved and keep to themselves then you should pick up on the hints and let them be. Whatever you do, don’t go asking around to see if anyone knows anything about them. It can easily turn into an obsession, so be warned!
There’s something about having a crush on a neighbor that just feels so exciting. Maybe it’s the fact that you live so close to each other and you know you’re bound to run into each other at some point. Maybe it’s the fact that you can’t help but wonder what they’re doing at every moment of the day, just a few miles away from you.
Whatever the reason, there’s no denying that having a crush on a neighbor can be a lot of fun. However, it can be messy and draining too. In the end, you can check this article out on why it could sometimes be a bad idea to even befriend your neighbors, let alone date them and start love stories with them.