In your 20s, it often feels like you’re constantly meeting new people and going on new adventures. At the same time, you’re also figuring out who you are and what you want in life.
As a result, relationships in your 20s can be both exhilarating and confusing. One minute, you may feel like you’re head-over-heels in love, and the next minute, you may be wondering if you’re on the same page as your partner. So how to differentiate the two and how to make sure you avoid heartbreak in your 20s?
These questions and more, are answered in this article, so keep reading!
How long should a relationship last in your 20s?
While there is no one answer to how long relationships last in your 20s, it’s often a time of experimentation and growth.
Some couples find that they’re able to weather the ups and downs and emerge stronger than ever. Others decide that they’re not ready for a committed relationship and choose to part ways after having had fun.
What matters is that you’re both open and honest with one another so that you can make an informed decision about whether to work on the relationship or leave and look for something more or less serious accordingly to what you want.
Ultimately, there is no right or wrong answer; it’s just a matter of figuring out what works for you, what you want individually, and if you’re on the same page. If you want a more accurate answer though, you’ll find it hidden in the lines of the answer we gave to this question:
How to date in your 20s and avoid heartbreak?
Just because you’re in your twenties and “have time” doesn’t mean you can make a decade-long mistake or to stay in a relationship that seems to be heading nowhere for years. In fact, most people in their twenties are just trying to figure out what they want in a partner. They’re constantly changing and growing, and they’re not usually ready to settle down. That’s why so many relationships in your twenties don’t last very long.
You may find that you just don’t have the same interests as your partner, or that you’re not ready for commitment. But don’t worry, there’s still plenty of time to find the right person, as long as you don’t spend your youth and all your energy on one long relationship that comes to a brutal end once you enter your 30s.
If you find the one, so early on in your 20s, then it’s great, you can choose to tie the knot and start a family if that’s what you want. Nobody said that people in their 20s cannot marry, in fact, it happens more often than you think as some people prefer to settle down and start a family early enough.
However, if you’re just gonna be in a relationship and fully commit to this one person with no guarantee of how serious they are themselves, then it can be a bad idea. This person could easily demand your entire attention, commitment, energy and unconditional love only leave you behind when you get older and when you possibly want to settle down. What type of tragic fate would that be?
So we’re pretty much saying that your best bet in avoiding heartbreak when dating in your 20s is to either keep dating for fun or only fully commit when you think you found the one. This means you should only get in a serious relationship in your 20s; if you truly think it has a lot of potential to last forever!
Why is dating so hard in your 20s?
There are a few reasons why dating in your twenties can be tough. For one thing, you’re probably still figuring out who you are, what your priorities in life are, what direction you want to go in life, and what you want in a partner.
You’re also dealing with the ups and downs of being a young adult, including dealing with exams from university, finding jobs, and maybe even struggling to keep a social life while juggling all. And, on top of all that, you’re trying to find someone who fits into your life and who you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with.
It’s no wonder that dating in your twenties can be difficult, especially because we look better, younger, and slimmer typically; which could mean we’ll have more options when dating. However, we don’t have the life experience or right knowledge about what we truly want in life, so mistakes are bound to happen when we have such a recipe for disaster.
Your 20s are also a time when you’re meeting new people, making lifelong friends, choosing a career, building a network of influences that can help change your life to the better or the worst, and making life-altering choices, etc. So just take it one step at a time and enjoy the ride.
Is it bad to be in your 20s and not dating?
It’s not necessarily bad to be in your 20s and not dating. Some people prefer to focus on their careers or other goals at this stage in their lives. Others may have had bad experiences with relationships and don’t want to jump into another one right away. And there’s nothing wrong with taking your time to find the right person.
However, you may regret not having dated more in your 20s, later in life, when you’re in a committed relationship. You may be loyal and very much in love with your partner, but this doesn’t mean you won’t look back and wonder why you didn’t have more fun when you could.
Obviously, even if you just want to date for fun in your 20s, rather than for something serious, you still have to be honest and clear about your intentions and find someone willing to do the same.