Ah, the elusive unicorn in a relationship. Everyone seems to be talking about them these days and how they’re the key to happiness. Unicorns are often seen as something that only exists in fairy tales, but that’s not necessarily the case.
While it may be wishful thinking to believe that you’ll find a “unicorn” in the metaphorical sense; where it mostly means a very perfect partner, many seem to have done it. You see these perfect couples on social media and think about how everyone seems to have been so lucky to find a partner that’s so caring, loving, and thoughtful.
But in the end, maybe it’s all appearances and lies. Maybe such unicorns in relationships or very perfect partners don’t exist after all. It could just be a question of keeping your couple’s drama private and finding someone as compatible with you as you can. In the end, nobody will be completely perfect and they’re called “unicorns” for a reason and that’s they’re not supposed to exist.
So what is a unicorn exactly in a relationship? Can you really find someone so perfect that it’s hard to believe that they’re real? Or is it all a question of how compatible you and your future ideal person are? Read on and find out.
So, what does it mean to find a unicorn in relationships or the dating world?
To a lot of people, a unicorn is someone who is more than perfect. They’re someone who almost doesn’t make sense that they exist because they’re so good at everything. In a relationship, a unicorn is usually the person who is always there for you, no matter what. They’re the perfect husband or wife that turns out even more amazing than you imagined in your wildest dreams.
They’re always supportive and understanding, and they never seem to get angry or upset. They’ll be an attentive partner who catches hints and sees any discomfort on your face before you even express it. And, so they proceed to solve the issue and try their best to make you happy.
Basically, they’re just perfect. Of course, unicorns don’t really exist, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t all strive to be a little bit more of a unicorn in our relationships. After all, who wouldn’t want to be with someone who’s always understanding and supportive?
Being a unicorn in a relationship could also just be another way of saying that you’re the complete or entire package, and tick all the boxes. From being highly educated to being a super-provider when it comes to your income, to have a drop-dead gorgeous face, perfect and proportional body, good manners, etc, a unicorn has it all!
Obviously, now after reading this it will make more sense to you; why we say these are not supposed to exist.
If you’re lucky enough to get your hands on such a partner try not to get too used to their kindness and exploit them or start to feel entitled to the care, love, and affection they provide. Be grateful and do your part to keep them happy, comfortable, and content too. Otherwise, you may force your little bubble to pop and your unicorn to turn into someone less than perfect.
So how easy is it to find a unicorn for a relationship or to date?
When you’re looking for a partner, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea of finding a “unicorn”. Unfortunately, that’s not really how it works. Everyone has flaws and everyone has deal-breakers or at least less attractive aspects to them.
The key is finding someone whose flaws you can live with and whose little shortcomings don’t bother you too much. Of course, that’s easier said than done. Unicorns or people who tick all the boxes; are pretty rare. And when they exist they’ll pretty much be looking for a unicorn too or they’ll have a different sexual orientation than us. It sounds funny and absurd, but it happened to some.
Usually, you have to compromise on something. Maybe they’re great but they don’t want kids. Or maybe they have all the qualities you’re looking for but they’re not really your type physically, which is a dealbreaker for many. It’s all about finding someone who’s right for you, even if they’re not perfect.
Is it not more about compatibility rather than finding a unicorn?
We’d say it’s more about how compatible you are with them. Everyone wants to think that they’re a unicorn or one in a million, if not in a billion, but the truth is that the camel does not see the bend in its neck. In other words, a person cannot see with clarity their own mistakes, flaws, and shortcomings.
So while you may think that you’re the most beautiful person alive, keep fit, be highly educated, be extremely polite, and more you’d still fall short when it comes to being every single person’s ideal or dream partner. Sure, you can find someone who is objectively perfect on all levels, but that doesn’t mean they’ll be perfect for everyone.
In the end, compatibility is key. You could find someone who is ugly or flawed in your friends’ eyes but who, in yours, will be and remain your perfect match if you’re compatible enough.
On the other hand, you could find someone who is so perfect in every way but you could still feel that there’s something missing, if you’re not compatible. For instance, check this article out on how someone could be perfect in theory or on paper; and you still won’t be capable of making yourself love them.