Love can fade away gradually, like a light switch being slowly turned off. And it’s sad because you can see all the passion and intensity of it slowly die out. Maybe your partner might try to hide the fact that they love you less or the fact that they completely fell out of love, but sadly you can tell by the way they look at you that the love is gone.
And eventually, sooner or later and even if you wanted to pretend not to have seen it coming, that day comes when they just say it: “I don’t love you like I used to.”… It’s hard to hear, but at least they’re being honest. And, before you panic, let us clarify that it’s not the end of the world!
So where do you go from here? What can you do? Should you try to fix the relationship? And if you decide to do so, how can you go back to the good old days when love was intense and strong?
How to act when they say: “I don’t love you like I used to”:
1- Think about what might have caused that:
It can be really tough to hear your partner say they don’t love you like they used to. At the moment, it feels like all the air has been sucked out of the room and your heart is shattering into a million pieces.
But before you decide whether or not to try and rekindle the spark, it’s important to take some time to reflect on what’s led to this point. If your relationship has been through a lot of stress recently, it may just be that your partner needs some time and some space to recharge. Or if there’s been a lot of distance between you, it may be that they simply need some more quality time together.
However, if the relationship was at its peak or if you two were living in a pink bubble, then they came out with this out of nowhere then it can be worrying and confusing. Ultimately, only you can decide whether you understand where your partner is coming from.
This will tell you if it’s worth trying to work things out, especially if it was all a temporary stressful phase that lead to his outcome. But, if the relationship just seems to have run its course, then you might want to give up on it too. In the end, if you’re both willing to put in the effort, there’s a good chance you can fall back in love with each other all over again.
2- Make sure you know what your partner means:
It’s tough when you hear those words from your partner. You might feel like you’re not good enough or that you’re being compared to someone else. But before you panic, one important thing to do is to have a conversation about what they mean.
It could be that they simply miss the early days of your relationship when everything was new and exciting. Or it could be a sign that they’re lacking or missing something crucial to them, in the relationship.
It could also be just a case of toxic comparison; where they saw another couple and started thinking as one of the partners from it as better in some way or the other than you. If the latter scenario applies then they’re in for a big lesson on how the grass is not always greener on the other side.
Either way, it’s important to understand what they meant fully and how they came to even form these thoughts in their head. Once you do that and confront them about what they truly mean, it will become clearer to both of you whether you want to put in the work to rekindle the spark.
If you decide that you’re both committed and care for one another and that you’ve just been neglecting the relationship or something of that sort, then it’s time to get creative. Plan special dates, try new things together and make an effort to keep the romance alive. With a little effort, you can fall back in love with each other all over again.
3- Ask yourself how you truly feel about your partner:
When your partner says they don’t love you like they used to, take a moment to put yourself first and ask yourself how you truly feel about them too.
If you’re still in love with your partner, then talk to them about what’s changed and try to work on rebuilding that lost love. It won’t be easy, but it’ll be worth it if you’re both committed to the relationship and willing to work it out.
However, if you realize that you don’t have the same feelings for them anymore, then it might be time to think about ending things since they have just admitted to not loving you either. It’s not going to be easy either way, but being honest with yourself is the best thing.
4- Could they have said it in a good way?
It’s a sad day when those three little words don’t hold the same weight as they used to. But what does it really mean when your partner says “I don’t love you like I used to?”
In some cases, it may simply be a sign that the initial flush of infatuation has faded and been replaced by a more stable form of love. This is not necessarily a bad thing, and in fact, it can be a sign that your relationship is growing stronger.
However, it’s true as we explained earlier that there may also be deeper issues at play. If your partner claims to no longer love you, or if they said it in the middle of an argument or just to hurt you on purpose; then it’s still a horrible thing.
Try to understand why they’d be so malicious and spiteful with you. it’s important to have an open and honest conversation when you both are calmer if that’s the case. The conversation should be honest and direct and it should be about what is causing this change and what the two of you want to do about it.
Only then can you hope to address the problem and bring the love back to your relationship, if that’s the route you want to take. Also, you can check this article out on how you can never make someone love you if they’re not willing to try and if that’s your partner’s position, then the writing is pretty much on the wall!