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What if my partner goes days without talking to me?

What if my partner goes days without talking to me?

This is sadly one of the most common worries girlfriends have. They ask: ” My boyfriend can go days without talking to me, is that normal?” Well, it depends. For example, if you’ve had a fight or a heated argument about something, it’s not uncommon for guys to take a few days to cool off and think things through. 

However, if he can go days without talking to you even when things are completely fine between you, that can be an issue. It doesn’t feel good to go days without talking to your partner, so why is he so comfortable with it? 

Today, we will explore some of the most common reasons why your boyfriend can go days without talking to you. If you consider that anything we discuss here today could be true for you, you need to sit down with him and have a heart-to-heart. 

5 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Can Go Days Without Talking to You:

1- You’re not a priority for him:

When a guy can go days without hearing from you, it could mean you’re not a priority. If he’s not interested or doesn’t take you seriously, he won’t care whether you talk every day or see each other often. He won’t go out of his way to see how you’re doing, know about your day, or be involved in your life. 

Though some people are way too “chill”, it’s not normal for your boyfriend to simply not care about your life. Especially not if you live together. If you live together and he can go days without saying more than two words to you, it needs to be addressed. If there are no issues, what’s the problem? 

2- He could be using you to his advantage:

Let’s be honest, men have huge egos and they do many nonsensical things to feed them. If he can go days without talking to you, he might be playing a game and using you to his advantage. Perhaps he feels confident you’ll always be there and reach out, even if he goes days without contact. 

As a woman, you need to give yourself value. If you teach a man that you will always be there no matter what, he will never do more than the bare minimum. Check this out to see what the bare minimum looks like when dating and in relationships and why you should refuse it.

In this case, he will always feel like he has the upper hand and the last word in the relationship because you have no expectations and agree to anything he does. He doesn’t want to talk? Fine, you can do other things with your time. 

3- He wants to leave the relationship:

It’s not uncommon to fall out of love and it happens to the best of us. If he can suddenly go days without talking to you, it might be because he has fallen out of love. He doesn’t know how to tell you and end the relationship, so he’s keeping his distance until he can work up the courage. 

Alternatively, if you’ve been casually dating and you haven’t defined the relationship, this behavior could signal that he’s not interested in settling down with you.

Perhaps he’s not interested in a serious relationship at all. In either case, he should be the one to initiate the conversation. But, if you’ve had enough, you can talk about how his behavior is making you feel and get to the bottom of it. 

4- He’s taking you for granted:

This is a tale as old as time. When a guy feels safe in a relationship, it’s not uncommon for him to take his partner for granted. That could be exactly what’s going on and why he can go days without talking to you. He feels safe, so he’s not trying anymore. 

That’s a big mistake. Though relationships ebb and flow, love and kindness should always be there. Check this article out to see what your options are and what you can do when a partner takes you for granted.

If you feel like this could be the reason for his behavior, express your emotions. If he never meant to make you feel unwanted or taken for granted, he will get his act together. 

5- He doesn’t care if he loses you:

If he’s over the relationship and he hasn’t had a conversation with you, he will act like he doesn’t care. Because, well, he doesn’t care what happens. This is cowardly behavior, but it’s not uncommon for men to wait for their partners to say something or end things for them. 

He’s had a change of heart and he’s over the relationship, so he has become detached and is waiting for you to call it a day and move on. That could be why he can go days without talking to you or seeing you. It feels awful, but facing the facts is better than keeping a relationship on life support.


It’s not unheard of, but it’s not normal for people in relationships to be perfectly fine without talking to each other for days. If you feel bad about it and like something’s not right at all, it’s an issue you need to resolve. Check this article out on what you can do if your boyfriend and you never have meaningful conversations or deep talks.

You can also have an honest, open, and respectful conversation to see what’s going on and go from there. 

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