For some people, saying “I love you” is the easiest thing in the world. They express their affection freely and without hesitation. For other people, however, saying those three little words can be extraordinarily difficult.
Their feelings of love may be just as strong as anyone else’s, but they may have a hard time expressing them. This can be due to a variety of factors, such as past experiences, growing up in an unaffectionate home, or a general feeling of awkwardness. Whatever the reason, it’s important to remember that not everyone finds it easy to be affectionate.
But, what about people that say or text “love you” rather than “I love you” is there any specific reason as to why they’re doing this? Is it a genuine typo or mistake caused by an innocent lack of attention and focus? Or, is it something more worrying like the inability to clearly claim their love because they’re unsure or because something has changed?
Reasons for saying or texting “love you” rather than “I love you”:
1- Making it sound causal and not special or specific to the person:
“I love you” is perhaps the most memorable phrase in the English language. It has been used in countless songs, movies, and TV shows, and it conveys deep and powerful emotion. However, some people prefer to say “love you” instead of “I love you.”
This may be because they want to make the statement sound more casual, or because they feel that the word “love” is too strong. While “love you” does sound more casual and relaxed than the former version of it; it might be used as a way to show affection without putting too much pressure on the relationship. Whether you choose to say “I love you” or “love you,” both phrases ultimately convey the same message of love and affection.
In the end, “love you” is a perfectly acceptable way to express your feelings for someone. So go ahead and say it; your loved one is sure to appreciate it. And, it is better than saying nothing at all, that’s certain!
2- Feeling uncomfortable expressing their feelings openly:
Some people may have experienced rejection in the past, making it hard for them to open up to someone or give themselves to them fully. Whatever the reason, it’s important to remember that everyone expresses love differently. Maybe your partner is more comfortable with non-verbal displays of affection, such as hugs or hand-holding.
While someone else may enjoy being together but doesn’t feel the need to say “I love you” all the time. The important thing is to find a way to express your feelings that works for both of you. So in this case, if your partner’s language of love is not necessary to repeat how much they love you, you should feel grateful that they still make an effort by saying or texting “love you”.
That’s the best you’ll get out of them without pushing them out of their comfort zone or pressurizing them. In the end, you can check this article out later on people’s different love languages and see which one is more likely to be your partner’s. Maybe that will provide more explanation as to why they opt for “love you” rather than “I love you”.
3- You feel it’s not fully deserved after an argument:
Couples argue. It is an unfortunate, but inescapable part of being in a relationship. Whether it is a disagreement about finances, family, or something as trivial as leaving the dishes in the sink, every couple will have their fair share of arguments. And while it is natural to argue from time to time, it can be difficult to get over an argument once it has ended.
The hurt feelings and anger can linger long after the initial disagreement has been forgotten, making it hard to move on or express your love openly again. One way to help get over an argument is to take the time to talk about it, apologize, remind each other of how important each one is to the other and say “I love you.”. Even if you don’t mean it at the moment, the act of saying those three little words can help to break down the barriers that have been erected during the argument.
By reaching out and saying “I love you,” you are showing your partner that you are still committed to the relationship, despite your disagreements. So take the time to get over your argument and to say it and mean it before it can become a casual everyday reminder. Because if you don’t, it can be hard to say “I love you” after just having been disrespected, disagreed with, or yelled at by your significant other.
It might seem like your “I love you” is undeserved in this case so you might opt for a shorter version of it and precisely “love you”, just because you don’t mean it yet. Don’t despair, though, in time, those hurt feelings will fade away and you will be able to move on from the argument hopefully and love your partner fully again.
4- They save the full version for special days:
For some people, it can be difficult to express their feelings of love and affection clearly and without riddles. They may feel shy or uncomfortable saying “I love you,” every time or they may not want to appear too needy. They might think that it will get old if repeated all the time without having meant it.
So they want to keep the full line of “I love you” for special moments, a date night, or a special event. The other days of the year they might just say “love you” like a quick reminder, before hanging up or when saying goodbye. But the full “I love you” will be reserved for special speeches about how much you mean to them when it’s your anniversary or a special day.
If your partner is not romantic then we encourage you to check this article out later to see what you can do to help them be more affectionate and loving. You can also check this article out, to understand better why your partner might not be so affectionate.
Do you find it difficult to say “I love you”?
For some, saying “I love you” is easy, but they might have trouble showing physical affection. Others might find it easy to be physically affectionate, but they might have trouble saying the words out loud. Regardless of the reason, it can be tough to open up and be vulnerable with someone.
However, it’s important to communicate your needs and wants to your partner. If you’re struggling to be affectionate, let them know so that they can better understand how you’re feeling and be more patient.
Often, just being honest about your feelings is a good first step in being able to express them more freely. With a little effort, you can learn to be more affectionate with the people you care about.