The dating game is not always easy to navigate. However, when you find a man you click with and you want to hook him in, there are many different strategies you can use. One of those strategies is to stop contacting him to see if he’s truly interested in you.
Now, if you want to do this, you need to choose the right time for it. If you do it too soon, he will just assume you’re not interested and move on to someone else. However, if you’ve been on a couple of dates and you communicate sporadically throughout the day, it’s not a bad idea to stop contacting him for half a day or an entire day and see what happens.
Why the right timing matters:
At that point, you’ve already established a connection and you enjoy talking to one another. So, cutting off contact for a bit is a good way to see if he’s as attracted to you as you are to him. You want him to care about not being able to reach you. If that’s the reaction you get, you know where he stands.
If he acts like it’s no big deal or he didn’t even notice that you didn’t contact him for a bit, that’s a bad sign. The good news is that it saves you time.
It’s not uncommon for men to waste women’s time. Even if they’re not super interested, they will string you along. This strategy helps you flush out the guys who don’t want the same thing as you do.
Does he like you or not?
It’s such a simple question, but men are not particularly known for being forthcoming about their feelings. They will drop a million hints and make you feel like they like you a lot, but you never really know for sure until they don’t say it.
Sometimes, you’re tempted to ask him directly if he’s interested in you or not. However, you have an ego too and you don’t want to look desperate. This is why women often turn to strategies or mind games. Not just to get men’s attention but also to get them to speak clearly about how they feel.
Even if you do ask him, men don’t always answer direct questions when you’ve just started dating. All you want to do is make sure you’re not wasting your time with him, but he doesn’t want to be nailed down to something. If you think about it, it’s understandable.
After all, you’re just starting to get to know each other so he might not want to jump the gun and disappoint you in the end. Other times, men just don’t want to be seen as the bad guy so instead of being direct, they string women along until they get tired and end things with them. They don’t realize women are not as patient as they think they are!
Stop contacting him and see what happens:
This could seem like a risk, but you should stop contacting them and see what happens if you really want to gauge how interested he is. If you’ve already been on a few dates and things still seem a bit too hot and cold for your taste, stop texting for some time and see how he reacts to that. This is a good way to learn what his intentions are.
If he is interested in you but he’s been slacking off and he hasn’t asked you on a date in a while, your lack of contact will make him shift gears. He doesn’t want to lose his chance with you, so he will take action. If he’s not interested, he won’t do anything to get your attention back.
If you’re always the first to text him, don’t. Don’t text him today and see if he reaches out to you. When men stop getting the attention they’ve gotten used to, they will be curious about the reason. They’ll want to know if you’re interested in them, so they will reach out.
Not texting him first is a big change, he didn’t see it coming, so now he has to decide if he wants to continue playing his game or not. Whether he texts you or not, you will win either way. If he texts you, you’ll know he’s into you and he wants to continue getting to know you.
If he doesn’t text you, good riddance. Either way, you will get the clarity you’ve been looking for, which is much better than being in the dark or hanging on his every word.
Women have powerful intuition, so if you feel like the guy you’ve been seeing is playing games, you should put him in the hot seat.
If he’s been very coy about whether or not he likes you or acting very hot and cold, cut off contact for a bit and see if he squirms or if he takes the opportunity to move on. Or you can always use other strategies to make him spit it out and be direct about his intentions but without asking him either!