In the early stages of a relationship, it’s natural to want to express your feelings and let your partner know how much you care about them. So, we might think that there is such a thing as saying “I love you” too soon.
However, declaring one’s love before really knowing someone can be a red flag that indicates that a person is rushing things or being impulsive. It’s important to take the time to get to know someone before deciding to make a commitment like that.
Otherwise, both parties might end up getting hurt if the relationship doesn’t work out. If you’re not sure whether you’re ready to say “I love you,” it’s probably best to wait until you’re sure. After all, it’s better to err on the side of caution than to rush into something only to regret it later.
So if you’re not convinced yet here are a few reasons why saying I love you within 2 months or less of having met the other person, can be a horrible idea and a red flag. It can result in a catastrophe!
This is why saying “I love you” too soon is a red flag:
1- They said “I love you” to a million more people before you:
One thing that makes saying “I love you” too soon almost ugly and repulsive is the thought of just how many people this same person must’ve said it to. If they’re saying “I love you” only a couple of days or weeks from having met you, you can’t help but wonder how soon they said it to the people they dated before you.
“It must a habit”, you’d think, and nobody can blame you for thinking this. After all, it didn’t take you anything to make them fall to your knees and confessed their love. Well, it took getting dressed up for your dates and putting on a nice perfume at least!
Maybe if someone with a better fashion taste and more alluring perfume showed up tomorrow, they’ll be inclined to run to them and confess their flimsy love to them instead.
2- It makes “I love you” casual, less of a big deal, and less powerful:
Throwing “I love you” around on every occasion and to everyone just makes it casual and easy to play with. If you’re in a relationship and you’ve only said it once, it might mean a lot more whenever it’s said than it would if you’d been dating for a while and already said it multiple times.
As any relationship expert will tell you, saying “I love you” is an important part of keeping the flame of love alive in a relationship. But, that’s when the relationship has started already and not during the talking or dating stage. Also, it’s also important to be mindful of when you first say it and be strategic with selecting the right time. This should be a time during the transition from dating to a serious relationship.
If you say “I love you” too soon, it can make it sound casual and lose its impact. The key is to find a balance between expressing your love and showing it through your actions, by doing a lot for your partner and being there for them. When you do say “I love you,” make sure it’s not out of necessity.
By being thoughtful about when and how you express your love the first time, you can keep your relationship strong for years to come. And, you can make that sweet “I love you” have a strong impact later on in the relationship whenever you say it.
3- Saying it too soon makes it sound not so genuine:
Saying “I love you” too soon can distract the other person from genuinely getting to know you and deciding properly if you’re a good fit. It may make them feel like they’re being pressured into saying it back, which is not a nice situation to put anyone in. And, if they overthink why you put them in such a situation you can across as not very genuine or even manipulating.
Saying it too soon could also create unrealistic expectations for the relationship. If you’re in a new relationship and you’re already saying “I love you,” it’s important to make sure that your feelings are genuine and that you’re not just caught up in the moment. Otherwise, you could end up causing more harm than good.
4- It can make the person look desperate and needy:
For one, saying “I love you” too soon can come across as desperate or needy. If you’re only just getting to know someone, declaring your love for them may make them feel pressured or uncomfortable. It’s also important to remember that love takes time to develop.
Rushing into things can often lead to regret later on. If you’re not sure how the other person feels, it’s best to take things slow and see where things go. Ultimately, saying “I love you” too soon is often more about satisfying your own needs than it is about the relationship itself.
You look desperate and needy at best, by saying it too soon. And, at worst, you’ll look like you’re scamming your way through their heart to obtain something from them in return; it could be intimacy or something else. So if you’re thinking of saying those three little words, be sure that you mean them and that you’re ready for what comes next.
5- It makes the relationship move fast:
There’s no doubt that relationships require work. But there’s a big difference between putting in the effort to make things work and forcing things to move too fast. When relationships move too quickly, it’s often because one person is trying to control the situation. This can be out of a fear of being alone, a need for validation, or simply a desire to avoid conflict.
So when you say “I love you” too soon, even if the other person was gullible and didn’t see it as a red flag and still gave you a chance; there’s a high probability that the relationship will fail. Check this article out later on why relationships that move fast very often or almost always fail and you will understand better what we mean here.
In some cases, people who try to quickly jump into a new relationship by saying “I love you” too soon are simply after intimacy. They may have been lonely for a while and so they feel the need to do something extreme to feel better and get with anyone. While it’s perfectly normal not to want to be single or lonely anymore, it is a red flag to want to date “anyone” just not to be alone. And, here we wrote a few reasons why.
If you’re worried about moving too fast in your relationship, take some time to get to know your partner better. Talk about your expectations and fears, and be honest about your feelings. By taking things slow, you can avoid getting overwhelmed and ensure that your relationship is built on a solid foundation.
Saying “I love you” is a way of showing how much you care about the person and how invested you are in the relationship. But, then again if you say it too soon and it doesn’t work out, then it’s not a big deal.
But if you wait too long to say it, it might be hard to find the right moment to finally spit it out. So, it’s best to just go with your gut and say it when you feel like it.