We’ve all been there before. You meet someone new and you hit it off immediately. The chemistry is undeniable. But then things start to get a little blurry.
They’re not quite ready to commit, but they’re not ready to let you go either. So what do you do? Do you give them a chance and see where things go? Or do you move on and find someone who is ready to commit? It’s a tough decision to make, and it seems like there’s no right answer.
However, in this article we’ll help you make the right decision for you; accordingly to your own circumstances and what would benefit you specifically the most, so read on!
Is loving someone who isn’t ready for a relationship okay?
Before you decide or answer this question, we want you to think about and do the things below:
1- Asses their reason for not being ready:
It can be really confusing whether we should give someone more time who isn’t ready to commit. There could be a number of reasons why they’re not ready and it’s important to assess each one of them before making a decision.
If their reason for not being ready is something that could change in the future, like they’re not over their ex yet, then it might be worth giving them more time.
However, if their reason is something that won’t change; for instance, if they don’t believe in love, marriage, or even serious relationships, then it might not be worth your time. It’s also important to listen to what they say and see if it sounds like an excuse or if they’re actually being honest about their feelings.
2- Have a clear idea of how much time they need:
If you’re dating someone who isn’t ready to commit, it can be confusing trying to figure out if you should give them more time or move on. On the one hand, you may have a strong connection and want to see where things go.
On the other hand, you may be getting frustrated with the lack of progress. In the end, consider how much time you’re willing to invest and how much time they’re asking for; before they can give you a final answer. If they’re not sure what they want, and cannot even give you a timeframe of when they’ll make their decision, then consider cutting your losses.
However, if they have a clear idea of how much time they need to be able to meet you halfway; then you can take that piece of information and decide if you’re willing to wait or if it’s too long for your liking.
After all, there’s no guarantee that whenever they decide to give your relationship a chance that everything will work out well. It could all end up being just a huge waste of time and you could end up waiting for them for a long while; only to break up a month after you get with one another. It’s pessimistic but it’s possible!
3- Think about how much you like them and if they’re worth waiting for:
If you’re dating someone who isn’t ready for a relationship, it can be hard to decide whether or not you should give them more time. On one hand, you might consider if they’re worth waiting for even for a second.
After all, you deserve the complete package and not someone who’s going to leave you hanging after a long wait, as we explained earlier. On the other hand, maybe they just need a little more time and if you stick by their side, they’ll eventually come around.
Whichever route you choose, make sure you’re doing it based on how much you like them and how much you think they deserve it. This way even if they disappoint you, you’ll still think it was worth it to find out their true colors before leaving rather than having any regrets.
Ultimately, it comes down to what you’re looking for in a relationship. If you’re willing to wait for someone to come around, then, by all means, give them a chance.
But if you’re looking for something more concrete real and immediate, then it might be time to move on. Sometimes the best way to find what you’re looking for is to keep looking. You can check this article out to learn more about why we usually advocate for leaving and walking away, if someone doesn’t want to commit!
You might find yourself making excuses for their behavior if they’re not ready or trying to convince them that they’re wrong. But the truth is, usually it’s not worth it. If someone isn’t ready for a relationship, there’s usually a reason why. And no amount of persistence on your part is going to change that. So if you find yourself in this situation, read our articles and make a decision.
But remember that there are plenty of people out there who are ready and willing to have a healthy, loving relationship; and that’s who you should be focusing on.