It’s a big decision to move out of your parents’ house. You’re finally ready to live on your own and start adulting, but you know your parents aren’t going to be thrilled about it. You’re not sure how to break the news to them, but you know you need to do it sooner than later.
If that’s the case for you then here are a few tips to help you break the news to your parents in the best possible way, so read on!
5 steps to tell your parents you’re moving out:
1- Invite them out for dinner:
So you’re finally doing it: you’re moving out of your parents’ place and into your own apartment. It’s a big step, and it can be a bit daunting to think about telling your parents.
After all, they’ve probably been helping you out financially, and they might not be ready to let go just yet. The best way to break the news is to invite them out for dinner. Nothing fancy; just a local restaurant where you can sit down and talk. You may be on a tight budget for the moment as your first month of rent is around the corner.
Don’t make it sound like this outing is to break some bad news. Instead, once the food is served you can bring up the topic and start b by telling them that you’re grateful for everything they’ve done for you.
Then only, you can let them know that it’s time for you to leave the parental nest and start supporting yourself. You may need to promise to stay in touch and visit often, but eventually, they’ll come around to the idea. And who knows; maybe they’ll even help you move!
2- Explain your reasons for such a decision:
Second, once you sit down with your parents in a nice environment and you open up the topic; explain why you want to move out. Be honest and sensitive; let them know that you love them and appreciate all they’ve done for you, but that you feel ready to live on your own and be more responsible.
If they try to talk you out of it, listen to their concerns and see if there’s a compromise that can be reached. Maybe you can move out for a year and then revisit the idea later on. Or maybe you can make a promise to visit them at least every weekend at the start.
3- Start making plans for the move:
Once you’ve come to an agreement, start making plans for your move. Get your finances in order and start looking for a place to live. If possible, involve your parents in the process so they can feel like they’re part of it.
And when the time comes to actually move out, do it with grace and gratitude. Thank them again for everything they’ve done for you and make sure they don’t feel as if moving out means goodbye forever.
Moving out is a big step for anyone, so just take your time and enjoy the process. Make sure you’re prepared for everything that comes with living on your own, from cooking and cleaning to budgeting and paying bills. But most importantly, don’t forget to have fun. This is a new chapter in your life, so make the most of it.
If you need advice from your mom or dad regarding any aspect of living alone from how to do the laundry to how to cook your favorite dish, it will be a good topic to discuss with them. This will be their chance to bond with you over something nice rather than have tension filling the air all the time since you brought up the topic.
4- Be reassuring and respectful of their concerns:
Moving out of your parents’ house is a huge step. It’s a time to be independent and to start your own life. But it can also be a daunting task, especially when it comes to telling your parents and we have already established that.
So it is expected that they may be worried about you and want to know what your plans are. They may have many questions and your mother may want to pop up every day and drop you some homemade food.
The point is that whatever your parents decide to do initially welcome their ideas and agree with them. They probably just need some time to adjust to the new situation and to see firsthand after you move that nothing has changed and that they’re still a big part of your life.
With this in mind, it’s important to be respectful and understanding of their concerns. They’re just trying to look out for you. The best way to ease their worries is to have a clear plan. Show them that you’re responsible and capable of taking care of yourself.
You can even lay out a plan for them on how you plan to buy a house of your own someday; if everything goes smoothly in your professional life. If you do that, they’ll be more likely to support your decision to move out. And most importantly, they will understand that your motive behind the move is simply that you want to be more responsible and ambitious which is something any parent will encourage!
5- Be confident in your decision and stick to it:
In the end, once you’ve made the decision to move out, it’s important to be confident in it and stick to it. This can be a difficult conversation to have with your parents, but it’s important, to be honest about your plans.
Be prepared to answer any questions they may have about your decision, and be respectful of their feelings. It’s also important to have a solid plan in place for where you’re going to live and how you’re going to support yourself before you even bring it up with them. So be prepared to explain in detail your reasons for moving out and how you plan to support yourself.
If your parents try to talk you out of it, be firm and gently remind them that you’re an adult and capable of making your own decisions. Once you’ve made your decision, stick to it and don’t let your parents give you any guilt trips about it. In the end, they’ll just have to accept that you’re an adult now and that you’re capable of taking care of yourself.
When everything is said and done they’ll come around and be delighted to have their privacy as a couple back. They may even want to rekindle the spark after the children leave the nest. So tell them that it will be a second honeymoon for them, if you can make such jokes with them, why not?