In a previous article, we discussed 5 reasons why you secretly crave male attention. This provided some insight into why some women can become obsessed with it and the underlying issues that likely need to be addressed.
In today’s article, we want to go over 3 steps to avoid caring about male attention and validation. Though there’s nothing wrong with enjoying male attention when it comes, it’s not okay to have your self-worth depend on it. It’s also not okay to start seeking male validation at any cost, and going against your values just to get noticed.
The love and attention you have for yourself should always be more important. Other people can take advantage of your need for outside attention and validation to manipulate you and make you depend on them if you’re an easy target.
That only leads to toxic relationships and potentially dangerous situations. As a woman, you need to work on your self-confidence, self-love, and self-esteem so you can live a life you’re proud of.
We’ve said this before; your life shouldn’t revolve around male attention and validation. Of course, this is a very sensitive topic and not many would want to address it with others. That’s why we wrote this article today to help you discreetly tackle this issue if you feel you’re suffering from it, away from the judgemental eyes of others.
It’s nice to feel wanted and loved by a man, but you should feel whole even if you don’t have that. Plus, the attention of one man that reciprocates your feelings should be more than enough and you should not be thinking of getting all men’s attention instead. So here are 3 ways to make sure you shake that feeling off and focus on yourself or your relationship.
1. Practice Self-Love:
Practicing self-love is one of the most important steps to stop caring about male attention and validation. Though it can be difficult for some, self-love is essential. You have to learn to be nice to yourself and love yourself, warts and all, so you can be comfortable and confident in your own skin.
You only have one body and one life, you shouldn’t spend it at war with yourself. Working on your self-love is always worth it and you have to do it for yourself. If you think changing your style, your hair, or working on your body is something you want to do, that’s great.
Making changes will help you improve your relationship with yourself. However, you shouldn’t do these things just because you think a man would like it. Overcoming your fears and insecurities is not easy, but if you don’t learn to accept yourself, you will always have a toxic need for male validation and approval.
You are already beautiful as you are, smart and worthy of love, you just have to remind yourself of that. Molding yourself into a different person just to get a man’s attention is not worth it. You’ll lose yourself in the process and that’s a shame because you are unique and you have something no one else has. You just have to learn to see it for yourself!
2. Understand Why Male Attention and Validation Matter to You:
When you constantly crave male attention and validation, and you’re willing to go to great lengths to get it, it means there’s an underlying reason. We discussed 5 of those possible reasons in our previous article, so be sure to read through it.
Understanding why male attention and validation matter so much to you is key. This will allow you to address the underlying issues directly and work on yourself. So, ask yourself, why is men’s attention so important to you? Only you know the real and true answer. Why do you care about what men think more than what you think? Why is their opinion so much more valuable to you?
Answering these questions will help you realize why you depend so much on male attention and validation. Once you do, you can start taking steps to heal and improve your relationship with yourself.
3. Work on Yourself:
Instead of focusing on getting male attention and validation, why don’t you pour that energy into working on yourself? Self-improvement is not only healthy, it’s also a great way to learn to love yourself and build your self-confidence. Whether that’s learning a new skill, seeking challenges, healing from past trauma, finding a new hobby, etc., it will make a huge difference in your life.
Having personal goals and working towards them is the best thing you can do for yourself, too. Instead of craving male attention and validation, you’ll crave fulfillment and success. Suddenly, your focus will be on yourself and on securing your future, whether a man was in it or not. And, you will be distracted from worrying about silly irrelevant things like what men want for you.
If you want to start your self-improvement journey, you should identify the goals you want to accomplish. You need something to work towards, so have a good conversation with yourself and determine what you want to achieve. Once you identify your goals, it will be easier to work towards them.
As you can see, the 3 steps to stop caring about male attention and validation are all focused on empowerment. Tapping into your inner power and working on yourself will only make you happy and fulfilled.
You don’t need anyone else’s attention or validation to thrive, you only need yourself. The sooner you start your self-improvement journey, the better! Become your top priority, work on yourself, and learn to give yourself the love and future you deserve, with or without a man.