There are a number of reasons why it might become necessary to stop pursuing a girl. For one thing, your pride can get in the way. Plus even if the girl has been passive up until now, and didn’t reject you directly, it still doesn’t mean you need to keep chasing her forever.
If you’ve been pursuing a girl for a while and she still doesn’t seem to be interested, it can be tough to let go and move on. However, it may become necessary!
So when you know that you’ve done your best and that nothing will change for a fact even if you continue pursuing a girl, that’s when it’s time to stop. For more guidance here are 5 detailed signs to help you know it’s time to stop chasing a girl.
5 Signs to know when to stop pursuing a girl:
1- It’s been a while and she’s barely flirting back:
It can be tough to know when to give up on a girl you’re chasing. After all, it’s easy to get caught up in the thrill of the chase and the hope that she’ll eventually come around. However, there is one key sign that it’s time to move on, and that’s if it’s been a while and she’s barely flirting back, it’s probably time to give up.
If you keep dropping hints, courting her in every way, giving her compliments, and trying to flirt with her but she’s just reluctant to reciprocate your efforts then it’s a clear sign to move on.
Additionally, if you’re not getting any positive signals from her, it might be best to save your energy and time by focusing on someone else. If the girl is giving you mixed signals or playing hard to get, it might be annoying but she’ll at least be giving you some material to work with. However, if she’s just not making any efforts nor taking any action then it might be better to cut your losses and move on.
Sometimes it’s just not worth chasing a girl who is so passive. She may be scared or threatened by you or simply shy and that’s why she still didn’t reject you in a more direct way.
2- You start feeling led on:
If you’ve been pursuing a girl for weeks or months with no success, it may be time to cut your losses and move on. If a girl is constantly leading you on or playing games, it’s time to walk away and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.
Maybe you’re starting to feel like you’re being led on. This is especially true if you’re always the one texting first, making plans, and initiating conversation. If you’re constantly the one making an effort while she seems indifferent, it’s time to move on.
It’s not worth your time and energy to keep chasing someone who’s not interested. Life is too short to waste time on people who don’t want to be in your life. Invest your time and energy in someone who wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with them.
3- She spreads the word about how you’re chasing her:
Another sign that you should forget about her is if she’s spreading the word about how you’re chasing her. If she’s telling all of her friends about how you’re constantly texting and calling her, it’s likely that she’s not interested and is just trying to use your attention for an ego boost or for popularity.
She could be doing it on social media or in person, so keep an eye out for this type of behavior. Once you catch her bragging or seemingly complaining about how intense or persistent you are or if she tries to make you look “thirsty” for her attention, then it’s time to deny it all and make her look like a fool. This type of girl doesn’t deserve your time and genuine interest and she’s just using it for her own agenda so we can guarantee that you don’t stand a chance with her.
That’s because a girl that’s interested in the guy who’s pursuing her makes sure not to make him look like a thirsty or desperate person. In fact, she’ll want to make him look appealing and perfect as she will want to associate with him and give him a chance at becoming her romantic partner.
Also, it’s important to remember that you have other options. It may not look like it but there is plenty of fish in the sea, and there’s no need to waste your time chasing after someone who is going to use your attention for ulterior motives. If you find yourself in any of these situations, it’s time to stop chasing the girl and move on.
4- She is dating others or considering them still:
A fourth sign on our list that it’s time to stop chasing a girl is if she consistently cancels plans or makes excuses not to see you. In this case, it’s likely that she’s not interested. This is especially true if she seems more interested in spending time with other guys, instead.
In this scenario, it’s time to accept that she’s just not that into you. While it can be difficult to let go, it’s important to know when to stop chasing a girl and when you’re just getting in her way to find someone she actually likes.
Maybe she says she’s not interested in dating anyone right now, but you still see her flirt with others and she goes on dates with them. In this case, realize that she could be stringing you along. If you’re chasing a girl who is dating or considering other guys, it’s time to stop.
She could even be tempted to use you to make her potential date or the guy she’s actually interested in jealous. Some girls may want to do this if the guy they like is taking long to ask them out. They may use other guys that are showing interest in them as a way to get the guy they truly want to make a move.
So before you become prey and be used to making another guy take action or become jealous, understand that a girl that’s not focused on you alone, is not interested.
5- She tells you directly that she’s not interested:
In the end, there’s no easy answer to the question of how to know when to stop chasing a girl. Obviously, the signs above are for situations where the girl never explicitly told you to leave her alone and you just got tired of running after her.
However, there are times when the signs are obvious and she tells you directly that she’s not interested. In this case, you should immediately and without hesitation drop the case and let her go. It’s true though that girls are not always so direct and clear. In this case, it may be more of a subtle process where you slowly realize that your advances are unwelcome. In either case, it’s important to respect the girl’s wishes and back off if she’s not interested.
If you continue to pursue her after she’s made it clear that she doesn’t want anything to do with you, you’re likely to come across as creepy and obsessive. And that’s definitely not attractive. So, if you find yourself wondering how to know when to stop chasing a girl, a good rule of thumb is to simply listen to what she’s saying or not saying and take your cues from there.