If you’re facing a divorce but you still love your husband, it can be an incredibly confusing and difficult time.
On one hand, you may feel like you’re betraying your vows by even considering ending your marriage. But on the other hand, you may feel like you’re stuck in a situation that’s no longer fulfilling or healthy.
If you find yourself in this situation, it’s important to take some time to figure out what’s right for you.
What to do when you’re going through a divorce but still love him?
There is no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to divorce, and only you can decide what’s best for your life. However, there are a few things that may help you to go through it smoothly even when you still love your spouse.
1- Be subjective and honest with yourself:
First, try to take an honest look at your relationship. Are there more bad days than good? Do you fight more often than you laugh? If so, it may be time to consider ending things. But, if not, you may be making a mistake or a rushed decision.
Divorce is such a hard thing to go through; especially when you’re still in love with your husband. But, like anything else, there is a way to make it a little easier on yourself and that’s by taking a neutral look at the situation and silencing your emotions until you do.
So be honest with yourself. If you’re still in love with him, that’s OK. Don’t try to force yourself to feel differently just because you think you should. Just consider that love a plus or bonus if you stay. you have to objectively decide whether the love for your husband is worth staying for or if you truly will never find true happiness in that relationship despite it.
Eventually, it will come down to your priorities and what you value more. So you have to make a choice that makes you the happiest, most content, and one that you’d be less regretful of down the line and not the opposite.
2- Think about all the different outcomes of your choices:
Second, think about how your life would change if you got divorced. Would it be an improvement? Would it be worse?
Going through a divorce is never easy, but it can be especially difficult when you still have feelings for your ex-husband. If you find yourself in this situation, it’s important to take some time to think about how your life would change if you got divorced.
Would you be able to maintain a healthy relationship with your children, if you have any? Would you be able to financially support yourself? Once you’ve considered all your options, you can start to navigate the choices you need to make.
Remember, there is no right or wrong way to go through a divorce. What’s most important is that you make the choices that are best for your family but also for, you, your mental health, happiness, and wellbeing.
3- Be honest and open with your spouse:
No one gets married expecting to get divorced, but sometimes it’s the best option for both parties. If you still love your husband but can’t see yourself staying married to him, it’s important, to be honest, and open with him.
Explain your reasons for wanting a divorce and give him a chance to fight for you. If he’s willing to make more of an effort to make things work, it could be worth giving him another chance. If you’re feeling conflicted about divorce, then let your husband know very clearly that you have feelings for him and love him but that you are still seriously considering leaving.
Give him your reasons for this and seek help as a friend, life partner, and someone he cares or cared about at some point. Don’t be aggressive or defensive about any of this. Be open and allow him to see everything you’re feeling even if it means being vulnerable. Then only, he can decide what he wants to do about it.
Will he meet you halfway? Does he not love you anymore? Is he going to help save the marriage? Did he already give up? If he doesn’t seem to be willing to put in the work, it may be time to end things. Going through a divorce is never easy, but sometimes it’s for the best.
4- Get professional help:
Finally, make sure to consult with an experienced divorce lawyer before making any decisions. They can help you to understand the legal process and what to expect from a divorce. Going through a divorce is never easy, but with the right legal support at least, it can be made bearable and possible.
Also, it’s important to get professional help to deal with the emotional fallout that comes with a divorce too. So seek the services of a reputable therapist or licensed life coach, if you want help to rebuild yourself. Otherwise, you may find yourself making poor decisions, like trying to get back together with someone who doesn’t value you or not being able to move on.
Like we said if you still love him, you need to be honest with yourself about why you’re getting divorced. Is it because of something he did? Or is it because the relationship just isn’t working anymore? your therapist will help you identify the real hidden and unconscious reasons behind everything you do or did. In that case alone, it will be easier to let go and move on.
If you’re having trouble doing that on your own, don’t hesitate to invest in a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your emotions and make the best decision for your future.
5- Focus on self-care and self-love:
In the end, going through a divorce is not easy so you will have to take some time for yourself. This is a difficult and emotional time, so it’s important to do things that make you happy and help you relax. That might mean taking up a new hobby, going on vacation, or simply spending more time with friends and family.
Also, remember that this is just a phase. It might feel like it’s never going to end, but eventually, it will. There’s light at the end of the tunnel, a new life chapter, and a new sunrise. And when you break free, you’ll be stronger and wiser for having gone through it.