Giving your partner enough attention is essential for any romantic relationship. It shows that you care about them, that they are an important part of your life, and that you are willing to put effort into the relationship. Unfortunately, life can sometimes get in the way and it can be hard to find enough time to show your partner the attention they deserve.
So if you’re a man struggling to keep your relationship afloat, because your girl thinks you’re not showing her enough attention, then don’t panic! The good news is that with a few simple steps, you can make sure your girl is feeling appreciated and loved. In this article, we will provide you with five easy ways to show your girl enough attention in no time.
From planning date nights to never disregarding any topic she wants to talk about, these five steps will help you make sure your girl knows she is important to you.
5 steps to give your girl enough attention:
1. Find the time for one sweet text a day and details that me all the difference:
One sweet message a day can keep your girl feeling appreciated and loved by reminding her that she is important to you and that you care about her. A simple text, email, or handwritten note can go a long way in letting her know how much you value her and the relationship you share. But, what matters here is consistency! Try to make it a daily habit or part of your routine to write one different sweet message every day during your lunch break or after your morning shower. Set a specific time for doing it and don’t overthink it, just write something sweet that will remind her of how grateful you are to have her in your life before you wish her luck with her day.
Sometimes that’s all it takes for a girl to realize how much she means to her man. A sweet message can brighten her day and make her feel special. It can also help to strengthen the connection between the two of you by expressing your love and admiration for her. These things may not matter a lot to men, but they mean so much to women. It can also help keep the spark alive in your relationship by reminding her that you are thinking about her even when you are not together.
Personally, I don’t expect my husband to write me a love letter or long text every day as I understand that he keeps his hands busy. However, I shamelessly expect him to record a 5 minutes video while driving to work every morning. In the video, he asks if I slept well, reminds me of things we agreed we’ll be doing together; like going to the movies that evening or something similar, asks about my work, and reminds me of his deep love and admiration for me and our sons.
To be honest, I feel happy watching these videos every morning when I wake up. It keeps me happy and gives me enough strength to go through a day dealing with two little toddlers alone without his help while he goes to work. And, to be honest, this became a sweet little habit of his without having asked him to do it initially. I barely remind him to stick to it if he skips a day which is rare anyway.
2. Be willing to entertain the topics she wants to discuss even if you think they’re irrelevant or silly:
Another thing you can do for your girl is to show her you are listening and willing to talk through anything. It’s true that you can show your girl you care by doing small acts of kindness like making her coffee in the morning, sending her thoughtful texts throughout the day, or surprising her with her favorite flowers. But, above all, demonstrate that you are interested in her life, thoughts, and worries by being ready to engage in any type of conversation or topic.
Things that seem too trivial or irrelevant to you may matter a lot to her and this is why you should be willing to entertain any discussion she wants to have and about anything at all. In fact, you should be the one asking about her day and offering to lend an ear if she needs to vent. If she wants to talk about someone specific or what happened during an event she attended with or without you; then you should be willing to listen and seriously think about her opinions before you share yours.
Don’t try to make her feel like she overreacts or overanalyzes things, even if it looks like she does. The least you can do is not look at her like she’s crazy and actually consider the possibility that what she’s saying may be true.
3. Take the time to plan date nights and weekend gateways:
Weekend gateways and date nights are an excellent way to show your girl that she is important to you and that you value spending quality time together. You can plan weekend getaways for the two of you to explore a new city, enjoy a relaxing spa day, or just spend quality time away from home.
You can also plan date nights for the two of you to enjoy a romantic dinner, a movie, or a fun activity that you both love; like a mini golf outing or a concert. Planning these special moments will show your girl that you care about her and that you are willing to make time for her.
To make the experience even more meaningful, take the time to think about what she likes and plan accordingly. Set aside a day to explore somewhere new, or make a reservation for a horseriding session or something new and unfamiliar. If you’re on a budget, plan an activity that doesn’t require a lot of money and take advantage of the outdoors. A picnic in the park, a bike ride along the beach, or a scenic hike are all great ways to spend time together. You can also make the experience even more special, by surprising her with a small gift or a handwritten note.
4. Be affectionate and expressive all the time:
Another way to give your girl enough attention is by being affectionate all the time. This could mean doing small things such as holding her hand, giving her hugs and kisses, or complimenting her. Additionally, you can make sure to spend quality time together where you hug her often, whether it’s when you go on dates or when you’re talking about your day.
It’s also important to offer her some comfort by hugging her or kissing her head or hands; when she’s feeling down in an attempt to uplift her mood. Being physically close and intimate can help provide a lot of emotional support. Indeed, showing your girl physical affection and attention is a great way to make her feel appreciated and loved. And, although our love languages can be different, we all notice when the person we care about the most finds joy in keeping and maintaining physical contact with us; through holding hands, hugging, or kissing often. It’s just another tangible proof of their love!
5. Show her that she’s your top priority:
Giving your girl enough attention also means being there for her when she needs you, both physically and emotionally. Make sure you take the time to listen to her and understand what she is saying, even if it means putting other things on hold for a bit. Take her out on dates and surprise her with thoughtful gifts; when she’s feeling down. Show her that you appreciate her and are thinking of her and of ways to lift her mood up constantly.
If needed, why not put her needs and wants before your own sometimes in order to make sure she knows that you will do whatever it takes to make her happy? If you do this and make sure you regularly communicate to be able to spot when she’s not feeling her best; then you will be able to make sure she remains happy and content.
Giving your girl enough attention is one of the most important things you can do to show her that you care. Taking the time to listen to her, reassure her, show her affection, and make her feel special will go a long way in fostering a loving and healthy relationship.
With the few simple steps listed above, you can make sure that your girl knows she is loved, appreciated, and supported. Showing your girl that you care can be easy if you take the time to do it.