If you’ve acted a little psycho towards a guy and you are now worried about losing him, don’t fret. There are steps you can take to get him back.
However, be warned if you keep acting like a hot mess and going out of control continuously then the guy in question might just give up and run for his life. So if the steps listed in this article work once, we recommend you don’t push your luck and try to make them work 100 times.
So, again, if you acted a little psycho only once or even twice and scared him off, you might be confused and heartbroken and maybe you don’t know what to do. Is he going to forgive you? Can you play it off? Relax. There’s no need to freak out, we’re here to help.
Steps to follow to get him back after acting psycho:
1- Reflect on what you did:
First, take a step back and assess the situation. What exactly did you do that was so psycho? Was it something you said? Something you did? And most importantly why did you do it?
Was it because you were feeling insecure or overwhelmed? Or was it because the guy did something that triggered you? Once you’ve pinpointed the root cause of your psycho behavior, you can work on addressing it so that it doesn’t happen again in the future.
Once you figure out what you did wrong and why you did it, think about why he’d be mad over something like that. Do you think he’s right to be upset, do you think you crossed the limits or pushed his buttons?
So take some time to calm down and think about it all carefully. If you were too clingy, give him some space. If you were too jealous, try to rationalize why you should try in the future to trust him more.
If you understand that what you did was insane but you think it was justified and the right reaction to what he did to trigger you, then you should discuss that with him. Be honest and consider asking him why he thinks what you did was wrong; so that you can see things from his perspective.
He’ll be happy to tell you and explain in detail why your words and actions seemed crazy and why they’re not acceptable. Don’t try to justify things or get into another argument just listen carefully and understand why it scared him.
2- Apologize for what was done:
The second thing to do in this situation would be just to put your pride aside, admit that you were wrong and apologize for your actions.
So, apologize for your actions and let him know that you’re willing to change. In fact, after you’ve acted psycho with a guy, one of the most important things to do is to show remorse and ask for forgiveness. This will help rebuild trust and show that you’re truly sorry for your actions.
It’s also important to take some time to reflect on why you acted out in the first place as we mentioned earlier, to help your apology seem more sincere. So we recommend you don’t neglect that first step if you want to come out as genuine and if you want to find the right words to say to fix things.
In fact, understanding what you did wrong would be very helpful when it comes to improving your character and demonstrating that you know why some things cannot be tolerated by others. It will show in your body language and through the words you choose for your apology whether you truly mean it or not. So make sure you don’t skip the step mentioned earlier.
Acting psycho is never an ideal way to handle a situation, but if it does happen, ask for forgiveness and then work on preventing it from happening again.
3- Do something special for him:
It will be very useful to try to make things right with him after having apologized. This may mean doing something nice for him or just spending more time with him. Whatever you do, just show him that you’re truly sorry and that you want to make things right between the two of you.
Also, you can try to make things right just by being extra loving, caring, and understanding to actively show your remorse. If he cares enough about you he’ll find it in his heart to feel sorry for you and may forgive you as soon as he sees how hard you’re trying to redeem yourself.
4- Give him some time to miss you:
The fourth step to take on your path for forgiveness is if you’ve gone a little bit overboard with a guy and acted psycho, is to give him some space. Obviously, not before you show him just how sorry and ready to change you are!
Let him miss you for a while and give him the opportunity to calm down. You don’t want to smother him or make it seem like you’re trying to control him or force him to be with you. Just give him a little breathing room and let things settle down.
After some time has passed, you can reach out to him again and see if things have changed. If he’s receptive, then take things slowly and see where things go from there. Giving him space can make him realize that it’s not that you cannot live without him and need him to survive, but it’s just that you like him too much to just let him go easily.
In other words, it will make him feel that he’s free to go if he really wanted to which will reassure him and make him feel confident enough to walk back into your arms.
He will feel in control of the situation and like he can decide to take you back or not and that you’re accepting of it with no fight. In this case, he will surely feel good about himself and will trust that you’re not as psycho as he thought so don’t worry: all is not lost after a little psycho episode.
5- Demonstrate and show him how you changed:
After you’ve acted psycho with a guy, one last thing to do is show him that you’re serious by making an effort to improve yourself. If you can do all of this, he’ll see that you’re sincere about wanting to make things work and he’ll appreciate it a lot. Just be patient and don’t push it, or you’ll end up pushing him away again.
You can show him that you’ve improved and that you’re very calm and collected. Making him think that you’re starting a new chapter can be very helpful in bringing you closer again. You can show him all of these things and more, but it’s up to you if you want to really prove to him in the long run that you’re worth his time. It’s up to you to show him that you’re worth his trust by never acting crazy again.
It’s up to you to show him that you’re worth his love. And again all of this starts with showing him that you’ve changed. So go out there and show him what he’s been missing. Show him what he will have now and the amazing life he allowed himself to have just because he has given you a chance. Show him that he was right about giving you another opportunity and helping you change for the better.