It’s happened to all of us at one point or another; you’re out with your girlfriend, minding your own business when some guy starts giving her the once-over.
Whether it’s intentional or not, it can be annoying and even disrespectful. So what should you do if it happens to you? Read on and find out.
5 steps to deal with guys checking your girlfriend out:
1- Don’t overreact:
If you’re in a relationship, it’s inevitable that other guys are going to check out your girlfriend from time to time. And while it might be tempting to get jealous or angry, it’s important to remember that it’s not a big deal.
After all, you probably did the same when you were single too, that’s how some men select potential partners. Plus, how would they know if a girl is taken, unless she has a ring on her finger?!! Even when your girlfriend is with you, some people may still mistake you for friends or siblings, unless you’re showing physical affection. So don’t overreact when someone checks her out without considering you.
She’s probably used to it and doesn’t find it annoying by now, because it must happen a lot more when she’s alone anyway. it will happen less with you because most guys will assume that the two of you are a couple, regardless of how you act. When she’s alone, there’s no sign or proof about whether or not she’s single so it is only natural that it happens more then.
Now the best thing to do is just to let it go and not make a big deal out of it, by remembering that your girlfriend is the one in charge and she selected you as a partner rather than anyone else. If you start getting possessive or territorial, it will only make things worse, scare her off, and possibly make her realize she can do better than someone who blames her for other people’s stares. So just relax, and enjoy the fact that you’re with the girl of your dreams.
2- Consider ignoring it:
If you’re in a relationship, it’s natural to feel possessive of your partner and want to protect them from anyone who might try to hurt them. However, it’s important not to overreact if you catch another guy checking out your girlfriend.
Chances are, he’s not actually interested in her and is only looking because he thinks she’s attractive. It can be instinctive and even the most educated and polite gentleman will be caught being guilty of it, at least a few times in his life.
If you start a fight with a guy who’s checking your girl out or make a scene, you’ll just end up embarrassing yourself and making your girlfriend uncomfortable. The guy will probably be caught by surprise too and shocked because he wouldn’t have noticed having done such a thing either. As we said it can happen naturally, unintentionally, and instinctively.
That’s why it’s probably best to just ignore it and pretend like it didn’t happen. Take it as an incentive to take care of your girl and keep her happy, because she will probably not have trouble finding someone new the day the two of you call it quits. So ignore it and keep going unless the guy persists with it and makes it disrespectful to you, then only, you might want to take action.
3- Think of it as a compliment:
Most guys have been in a situation where they’re out with their girlfriend and another guy is checking her out. While it can be tempting to get jealous or even confront the other guy, it’s important to remember that there’s no need to get worked up about it.
Instead, many guys do the smart thing of thinking of it as a compliment. After all, your girlfriend is clearly attractive enough to catch someone else’s eye. Not only that, but she chose you to be with, in the end. So this must say a lot about just how amazing you are too. You must have at least a few undeniable qualities that make you desirable too.
It’s just that other women are not as forward as guys when they find someone attractive or good enough. Otherwise, you’ll probably have women checking you out left and right the same as your girlfriend does with guys.
If you think of it this way, it might even give you a bit of an ego boost. So instead of getting angry, try to enjoy the fact that your girlfriend is so desirable and still only has eyes for you!
4- Realise it doesn’t mean that they’ll try something more:
It’s possible that the guy isn’t actually doing anything wrong, he must’ve checked the girl out unintentionally, as explained before. But sometimes it can also be a little bit annoying, especially if the guy is being blatant about it or if you’re feeling a bit protective. If you find yourself in this situation, the best thing to just wait and see for yourself if the guy dares to do anything more than just stare.
In most cases, the guy won’t do anything and even if he addresses your girl it will be about how she dropped something and didn’t see it or how something silly. No guy will stop your girl and start flirting with her out of nowhere, at least not while you’re with her. Guys are not so dumb to want to get in fights unnecessarily.
Your girl must be attractive but no guy that doesn’t even know her personally; will think she’s worth having him, a perfect stranger, fight her actual man for her. Plus, it’s pretty clear that even if he did it won’t go anywhere because she’s with you, she knows you more and you’re clearly her partner so she will choose you in the end. Other guys know this, so regardless of how attractive your girl is no guy will do anything more than looking at her, while she’s with you, so no need to panic.
Additionally, no girl is physically attractive enough that another guy that doesn’t even know anything about her will stop her while she’s with a man and try to make a move on her. Well, unless it’s a youtube social experiment, and we all know that these are made with the help of paid actors and actresses anyway.
Chances are, the guy is just admiring your girlfriend from afar and isn’t actually interested in making a move on her. This is especially true when the two of you are out and about together and everyone can easily guess that you’re a couple. So just enjoy the fact that your girl is so attractive that she’s turning heads wherever she goes.
5- Confront the guy directly:
Finally, if all else fails, the guy is being persistent and making you both uncomfortable then, you can try to defuse the situation with humor. A lighthearted comment can diffuse tension and let him know that you’re not going to put up with any nonsense.
You can always try to talk to the guy who’s doing the checking out. If the guy doesn’t back down. If he’s completely ignoring your presence and trying to get your girl’s attention, don’t hesitate to speak up for yourself. Let him know in no uncertain terms that she’s off-limits and that he needs to back off.
In most cases, he’s not actually trying to be disrespectful or make you angry; he’s just unaware of how his actions are affecting you. A polite conversation can usually help to clear the air and resolve the issue. By taking a confident and assertive stance, you’ll discourage any further unwelcome attention.
In the end, think about checking this article out to gain a little more self-confidence and luckily enough this type of issue will stop bothering you.