Being spontaneous in a relationship can be a great way to keep things fresh and exciting. It can help to prevent the boredom that can come from doing the same thing day after day. It can also add some spice to an otherwise routine relationship. Of course, there are times when being spontaneous can backfire, so you want to do it the right way.
For instance; If you never plan things out in advance, you may find that your partner is closed off to new ideas or unwilling to cooperate, at the last minute. Also if you’re always surprising your partner with unexpected gifts or events, they may eventually come to expect it and feel disappointed if you don’t deliver.
So being spontaneous in a relationship is possible but should be done with caution. As long as you use spontaneity sparingly and thoughtfully, it can be a great way to add some excitement to your relationship. Here are a few tips for how to be spontaneous in a relationship, the correct way:
5 Steps to be spontaneous in a relationship:
1- Plan unplanned outings:
Planning surprise outings can be a great way to do something new and different. This could be anything from tickets to a show or concert, to a romantic picnic in the park.
Arrange for a babysitter if you have kids to go out on a date night, without warning your partner about your plans until one day before. Explain to your partner that it will be a great way to reconnect with them without the distractions of everyday life. In this case, they will probably think it’s sweet of you and try to go along with the plan. Just make sure they didn’t have something important planned out already for that day.
The outings that you surprise your partner with shouldn’t be too extreme, out of character, or crazy compared to what the two of you usually do. You don’t want to cause a fight or have them say “no” after you already spent money to make all the arrangements.
So make sure that it’s something they’d accept to do and an outing they’d usually enjoy. The only difference is that they wouldn’t have known about it until the day in question or if it’s something bigger; until one day earlier!
2- Do sweet small gestures for no reason:
Being spontaneous in a relationship is so important and refreshing! It shows your partner that you care about them and have a genuine and spontaneous desire to do things on a whim just to make them happy. It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive, just something that shows you were thinking of them.
Why not bring home flowers or chocolates “just because”? Small gestures can go a long way in showing your partner that you care about them. It could be as small as gifting them a written card out of the blue, or something bigger like helping them pay for their car installments or getting a bill or a burden off their shoulders, unexpectedly.
Maybe buy them their favorite candy bar from the gas station with no warning, or leave a love note in their lunchbox. Little things like this can really make your partner’s day and make them feel loved. So next time you’re out running errands, pick up something special for your partner “just because”. They’ll definitely appreciate it!
3- Do things differently as a couple:
If you’re stuck in a rut, do something completely out of character, as a couple: it could be as simple as changing the way you text one another and throwing in more sweet texts and nicknames. Or it could be agreeing to watch a different type of movie or program together and giving it a shot.
Doing things differently as a couple can help to break the routine and add some spice to your relationship. Something as simple as that on the spur of the moment can be a great way to inject some excitement into your relationship. Of course, spontaneity doesn’t always have to involve putting yourself in an uncomfortable situation.
Sometimes, simply trying some new ways of doing the same things you’ve been doing together for years, can be a great way to reignite the spark in your relationship. Whether you’re venturing out on an adventure or just trying a new restaurant, being spontaneous together can help to keep your relationship strong and healthy.
4- Take a spontaneous weekend trip together:
A great way to get out of your usual routine could be to explore new places together. Whether it’s taking a spontaneous weekend trip together or going somewhere completely different for your anniversary trip, spontaneity can add an element of excitement and adventure to any relationship. It can also help to keep things fresh and new, preventing boredom from setting in.
So raise the idea amongst each other and plan a trip somewhere fully unexpected, last minute. Couple trips don’t have to be planned months or years in advance, as long as you can afford them. And, it doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just somewhere new that neither of you has been before. It can be a different city or even a different country.
The point is to get out of your comfort zone and learn new things together. This is a great way to expand your horizons and deepen your connection with each other. When you’re in a new place, you’re more likely to try new things and have new experiences. This can only be good for your relationship.
So next time you’re feeling bored, suggest a spontaneous weekend getaway to your partner. You’ll both be glad you did.
Best of all, being spontaneous is often contagious, so your partner is likely to start feeling more spontaneous as well. So if you’re looking to add some spice to your relationship, start by being more spontaneous with your traveling. You may be surprised at how much fun you have.
5- Do something outside of your comfort zone:
Being spontaneous doesn’t have to be expensive or time-consuming; it’s all about making the effort to do something special for your partner or encouraging them to do something fun, harmless, and out of their comfort zone.
Doing something outside of your comfort zone together can be very thrilling and exciting. This could be anything from trying a new hobby or sport, to going on an adventure in the great outdoors.
The key is to step outside of your comfort zone and try something new that one of you would’ve never dared to do if it wasn’t for the other partner. This will help to keep the spark alive in your relationship and make sure that you never get bored with each other. Plus, it’s always great to have an adventure buddy! So go out there and explore the world together.
In the end, you can also check our article on how to turn a boring relationship into a fun one, if that’s something you’d be interested in, especially as it requires a lot of spontaneity to do just that.