Sometimes it is important to stop and ask your partner if there’s any kind of tension or conflict in your relationship. Then, it is important to address it head-on and move forward. That’s because we’re not always mindful of how our actions affect others in the long run.
You should always be able to communicate with your partner and be open about what you want from the relationship too. If things are not going well for your partner, try asking them questions about their feelings so that you can better understand what they are going through.
This is all okay to do, as long as it doesn’t become a habit. Showing a constant need for reassurance when in a relationship can become bothersome, irritating for your partner, and even toxic. If you feel you’re guilty of it, then check out this article on the possible reasons why you need constant reassurance in relationships.
Can you ask a couple if everything is ok in their relationship?
Before we jump on ways to ask your partner if all is going great in the relationship from their perspective, let’s talk about how you can ask a different couple about theirs.
To ask a different couple about their relationship can be seen as nosy, unwelcome, and perceived as an invasion of privacy. However, if you saw signs of abuse or have valid reasons for concern, then you can take it upon yourself to ask a direct clear question to the partner that you believe to be the victim.
That is obviously more than acceptable. However, making a habit out of preying and spying on a couple that seemingly looked happy for many years, can be considered rude. And, regardless of how you go about it, you could be met with unpleasant comments or advice on how you should mind your business.
2 ways to ask if everything is ok in a relationship:
1- Ask in person:
It is a good idea to have a conversation with your partner and discuss what you are feeling to find out how they’ve been feeling too. If something is not right, feels off, or if they’ve been acting weird; it is important to speak up and ask if everything is ok in the relationship.
You should not just rely on your gut feeling or what you think the other person is thinking. Instead, you should communicate openly and clearly with them and find out if everything is really all right.
That’s why it’s important to take a moment and sit down with your partner and talk about what’s going on in the relationship. You can do this by asking them how they feel about the current state of things or if they’re in a happy place in life, in general.
They might have goals that they won’t rest before reaching or be busy with day-to-day duties and responsibilities, and that’s fine. What you need to know is that in the meanwhile and in the present moment, are they happy, content, and satisfied? If you’re not sure how that conversation should go, you can use these guidelines for asking:
– Ask them how they feel about the current state of things when it comes to work, family, and friends.
– Ask them if there’s anything that has changed recently.
– Ask them if they’re happy in general with where they’re at in life, but not before telling them how you feel first and whether or not you’re there yourself or not.
– Ask if they think you should go on dates more often, travel or if you need a romantic break. This will open a door to let you know what they think your relationship needs right now.
2- Ask via a long text message:
Some people find it difficult to open serious conversation or clumsily create some type of unnecessary tension between them and their partner. So what they do and prefer is to text and say exactly what they’re feeling and how they’ve been feeling it to their partner, rather than ask in person.
Asking in person can sometimes come off as microaggressive or trigger an argument, unnecessarily. Sometimes our partners assume that we’re complaining or criticizing them when we bring anything negative up or even when we ask an unusual question. Check out this article if your couple or partner suffers from this problem!
For this reason, you can choose to write a sweet long text about how grateful you are for them and how much you like having them in your life. In the end, you can ask how their year (or last months, if you only started your relationship recently) has been for them.
It can look like a harmless and sweet way of checking on them and seeing if they’re doing good and it will bring you all the answers you seek, at the same time.
And, don’t think that you can’t text them just because you’re in the same room or house. You can still say whatever you want through text, they will read it and realize you texted rather than talk, so they will probably text you back with a smile on their face! If not, you can interrupt them jokingly and ask them for a text instead!