It can be really reassuring to be reminded that your partner is there for you, no matter what. In a relationship, both partners need to feel like they can rely on each other. That way, if something goes wrong, you know that you have someone you can count on and who just renewed their commitment or vows to you indirectly last week or recently enough.
However, some people believe that all this goes without saying and that the fact that you’re with someone in a relationship, should be enough reassurance in itself. So how important is reassurance in a relationship and does it matter at all to remind your partner sometimes; with sweet words or gestures, that they’re your favorite person?
Does reassurance matter in a relationship?
Reassurance can come in many forms, from a simple hug to saying “I love you.” or kissing your partner with the same passion you did when you first started dating. No matter how easy it sounds, it’s not always easy to give or receive reassurance. Some people need more of it to feel safe, secure and valued in their relationship, while others don’t need it at all.
Sometimes we might feel like we’re being clingy or needy, if we ask for reassurance. Other times, we might be afraid of appearing vulnerable. But ultimately, reassurance is an important part of any healthy relationship and we shouldn’t shy away from demanding it at times.
However, there’s no doubt that being too needy of reassurance can become suffocating and point to other issues and underlying problems. Check this article out later on about why needing too much reassurance can become problematic. In the end, though there’s no denying that asking for just the right dose of love and confirmation of your partner’s affection often can help you feel more secure and confident in yourself and your relationship.
So next time you’re feeling a little down, don’t hesitate to reach out to your partner for a little bit of reassurance.
The consequences of failing to provide the right dose of reassurance in a relationship:
We all need reassurance from our partners from time to time. Whether it’s a simple “I love you” or an impassioned declaration of devotion, these words can help to strengthen our bond and build trust. However, it’s important to find the right balance, as explained earlier.
On the one hand, too much reassurance can create a sense of dependency, and too much need for reassurance can be hindering too as demonstrated earlier. On the other hand, too little reassurance can make us feel unsupported and unimportant or even make us doubt our partner’s intentions and start becoming paranoid.
The key is to listen to your partner and give them the level of reassurance that they actually need, not necessarily what you think they want to hear. By doing so, you can maintain a healthy and supportive relationship.
So how can you figure out the right amount of reassurance your partner needs specifically, as we’re all different? And, how can you make sure they keep having full faith and trust in you, your intentions, and your relationship?
How to reassure your partner in a healthy way:
1- Be mindful of just how much reassurance they need:
The best way to reassure your partner is to listen to them and try to understand their needs. We’re all different, so they may need more or less reassurance than you do. If they don’t feel like they can talk to you about their worries, it’s going to be difficult for them to feel reassured.
If you’re not sure what they need, just ask them. They’ll appreciate that you’re trying to understand and will likely be more open with you about what would help them feel better. Maybe they need to spend quality time with just the two of you every night to feel connected to you or they might need at least two date nights a week regardless of what is going on in life or how many kids you have, etc.
Or, they may need a handwritten letter from you every anniversary. Or if you’re not fond of writing then a deep conversation about how you appreciate their time, love, and support through the years would be great!
2- Don’t make them spell it out for you:
Also, don’t make them put into words exactly what it takes for them to be fully reassured or be at the peak of their happiness and love for you.
Because the more we give instructions to our partner on things the more we might feel that they’re only doing it because we asked for it in that way. So be creative and try different things until you find which method or combination of methods works wonders for your partner and relationship. These little gestures will make the entire difference.
Just remember that everyone is different, so don’t expect your partner to react the same way you would in any given situation. Be patient and understanding, and they’ll likely return the favor when you need it most.
3- React better to your disagreements and arguments:
We’ve all been there before. Your partner says something that rubs you the wrong way or does something that hurts your feelings. In the heat of the moment, it can be tempting to lash out and say something that you’ll both regret later. However, there is a better way to handle these situations. The next time your partner upsets you, try taking a deep breath and counting to ten before you say anything.
This will help you to avoid saying something in the heat of the moment that you’ll later regret. If you’re still feeling upset after you’ve calmed down, try expressing your feelings to your partner in a calm and rational manner.
This will help them to understand how their actions made you feel, and it will also give them a chance to explain their side of the story. By handling conflict in a constructive way, you can help to build a stronger and more loving relationship with your partner.
And making up after an argument can also become a pleasing sweet moment where you verbally express to them how much you love them and how much you try to control your emotions to prove that you care about them. This will be a beautiful form of reassurance as you would refrain from saying hurtful things that can make your partner lose security and faith in the relationship.
4- Pay attention to the small details:
One small gesture can go a long way in reassuring your partner that you love them every day. Something as simple as making them breakfast in bed, giving them a kiss before you leave for work, or sending them a sweet text message can let them know that they are always on your mind.
Paying attention to the things that are important to them and making an effort to include them in your daily plans is also a great way to show how much you care.
Above all, always be ready to listen when they need to talk and be willing to put their needs above your own. By making small reminders like these part of your everyday routine, you can let your partner know that their happiness is always your top priority.