It’s tough to get over someone you care about. You might find yourself thinking about them constantly, unable to focus on anything else. You might also feel restless and irritable as if you can’t shake the feeling that something is missing. B
ut eventually, with time and distance, the pain will start to fade. The intensity of your feelings will lessen, and you’ll be able to think about the person without feeling overwhelmed. You’ll also start to feel more like yourself again, no longer defined by your relationship with someone else.
When you reach this point, you’ll know that you’re finally starting to move on. But, what are some undeniable signs that will prove that you’re on your way to getting there? Read more and find out!
5 undeniable signs that you’re over someone:
1- You never think about them unless a reminder triggers a memory:
You know you’re over someone when you never think about them unless a reminder triggers a memory. You know you’re over them when you go about your day and don’t think about them once. You never catch yourself wondering what they’re doing or who they’re with.
You don’t get pangs of jealousy when you see them happy with someone else. Heck, you don’t even concern yourself with finding them on social media to even see if they’re happy or sad. Almost the only time you remember about them is when you see their name in your email box or when you come across a picture of them somehow.
For example, you see their name on a list or in an email, and suddenly you remember them. But even then, the memory is quickly overshadowed by whatever you’re doing at the moment, and it doesn’t bother you. You might even laugh about it. You don’t feel the need to text or call them, or even go find them on social media.
You’ve moved on, and you’re ready to start dating again. So if you find yourself thinking about your ex only when someone else mentions them, it’s a surefire sign that you’re over them. And that’s a good thing!
2- When you get reminded of them, you feel nothing at all:
Even When you get reminded of them by something as explained in the earlier point, you still feel nothing at all. It’s like they never even mattered to you in the first place. And that’s usually the case when you’re finally over someone, it feels like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders. You no longer obsess over what they’re doing or who they’re with; you don’t even care anymore.
In fact, even when you’re reminded of them or when you hear their name, you don’t even get mad. You just feel…nothing. And that’s how you know it’s finally over. You’ve moved on to greener pastures, and there’s no looking back. And that’s the most freeing feeling in the world. You can finally start living your life again.
So if you find yourself in this situation, congrats! You’ve made it through one of the hardest things in life. Enjoy your newfound freedom.
3- You can finally enjoy your life again to the fullest:
When you’re head-over-heels in love with someone, it’s hard to imagine ever feeling differently. But as any who has gone through a breakup knows, feelings can change. So how can you tell when you’re finally over your ex?
For many people, one key indicator and the third one on our list is when you’re able to have fun and enjoy your life without them. You no longer have to plan your every move around them or wonder if they’re happy every minute of your day. You don’t have to agonize over whether or not you’re good enough for them or try to figure out what they’re thinking all the time.
Instead, you can just be yourself and relax, knowing that things will work out the way they’re supposed to. Even if someone brings them up and you think about them for a moment, you quickly move on to something better because they’re no longer an obsession. You may even be able to wish them well and mean it. When you’re finally over someone, you can breathe a sigh of relief and enjoy your life again.
4- You don’t feel the need to take revenge:
And fourth, you don’t feel the need to take revenge if they’ve wronged you. Of course, everyone is different, and there is no definitive approach to dealing with someone who has hurt us badly. But, if you truly moved on you’ll find that you don’t feel the need to take revenge or even think about someone who hurt you. Instead, you’re focused on your own happiness and healing.
In fact, you’ll start to feel more like yourself again. Anything they’ve done to you is barely a lesson you learned from and nothing else. The pain and sadness you felt will start to lift, and you’ll be able to enjoy your hobbies and activities once again. In other terms, you will be able to focus on finding yourself again and rebuilding your identity again away from any pain they made you feel in the past.
You’ll be able to think about the future without feeling overwhelmed by sadness or anger and without wanting to hurt them back or go back and take revenge on them. If you can reach this point, it’s a good sign that you’re well on your way to moving on from the past.
5- You’re fully focused on your own future and life separately from them:
One surefire and final way to know when you’re over someone is when you can think about them without feeling any emotions. This doesn’t mean that you’ve stopped caring about them entirely, but rather that you’ve reached a point where you’re no longer defined by your relationship with them.
You’re able to see them as a separate person with their own thoughts and feelings, and you’re no longer invested in their happiness or well-being. Instead, you’re focused on your own life and the people who are important to you. It’s a sign that you’ve moved on and are ready to create your own story.
So if you can picture yourself dreaming and later on achieving your aspirations without this other person by your side, then it’s a good sign that you’re ready to move on. Of course, it’s not always easy to let go of someone you care about. But if you’re able to focus on your own happiness, then you’ll be one step closer to finding the peace and closure you need.
In the end, if you find yourself ticking off all five of these items, it’s a pretty good sign that you’re at least ready to move on. You can check out this closely-related article for more on signs that you’re healing properly and forgetting after a breakup.