When you’re going on a date, it’s important to always be on your best behavior and look your best too. But sometimes, even the best of intentions can lead to disasters.
This can happen when you have an unfortunate first date experience or a really incompatible person you’re going out with. Let’s face it, dating can be stressful and exhausting, and we all want to avoid making mistakes. But, when we do or the other person does, it is always a funny story to remember and laugh at.
It’s possible that you have found yourself in a situation where your date is making all the wrong moves. If this is you then do not hesitate to send us your story, with your age, profession, and sexual orientation for a feature in one of our articles, using the contact form of the website!
Few First date disasters:
We asked a few people from our circle of friends what was the worst date that they ever had, and the answers were not only hilarious but also crazy and unexpected.
One of our couple’s single friends; Sam, 32 years old, and heterosexual, said we can use his testimony on our website. So here it is:
“My first date was a disaster; I met my date at a bar, we rode the subway to her place, and she stumbled into her room. She passed out almost immediately. I thought nothing would be able to top that until one night when I was on Tinder and got matched with a girl who showed up at my door in a fanny pack and wanted to watch me exercise.”
Another friend; Jennifer, 24 years old, heterosexual, and a university student, testifies:
“In the past, I thought my dating history was bad because I am inexperienced, but now I know that my experiences were just really bad dates. One of my worst experiences was when I met a guy at a party and he seemed really cool. Then I went to his place and stayed the night. In the early morning, I went to his bathroom and found out that his roommate was hiding there. I don’t know if he came at some point during the night or if he was there the entire night.” She added:
“Nobody ever took the time to explain or justify why my date’s roommate was sitting there in the bathtub with his laptop and blanket… It sounds unbelievable now but it’s a true story!”
Another acquaintance; Sarah, 29 years old, Heterosexual, was kind enough to let us use her story too:
“It all started when I signed up for an online dating site. It was a pretty new site and I got matched up with someone quickly, within my first month it was already looking like we would start seeing each other in real life soon.” She added:
“I met him at his work so that he could show me around the department. After some time a security guard came and asked what we were doing there as he wanted to close down the offices and start his night shift.” She clarifies:
“I was surprised to see my date show a badge he took out of his pocket and say that he’s the friend of someone that works there. He created an excuse about having been sent to collect some documents. It turned out my date was unemployed and for some mysterious reason chose to take me to his friend’s workplace for our first date…?”
Things you can do to avoid bad first date experiences:
In general, dating can be quite difficult; especially in the beginning stages when you are meeting new people for the first time. It is harder for women because society tends to expect them to quickly take charge and stay safe in unexpected situations.
It may seem daunting at times but it is worth working on your dating skills and avoiding putting yourself in uncomfortable or vulnerable situations.
1- Make sure you know your date:
It is important to be cautious and mindful when dating, especially when finding people online. Taking time to think about the person you are dating is important before meeting them. Not only will this help you avoid potentially having a bad date, but it will also give you insight into yourself and what you want in your future partner.
2- Say bye early, on the first date:
Know when it’s time to say goodnight and move on after two hours. It doesn’t always happen in two hours but if you feel like he/she is being clingy, weird, or needy, start packing your stuff, create an excuse and vanish!
In fact, even if they did nothing wrong, it’s better for first dates to be short. First dates should be quick and light to allow you to go and make an unclouded and informed judgment or decision about whether you want to see that person again before you see them for an extended period of time.
3- Be yourself:
Be yourself! Be your authentic self and don’t try to hide who you are in order to impress someone. This will make it easier for you to tell if they’re attracted to you or not. If they’re not interested in getting to know more about you, then it’s time for them to move on. If they’re interested in getting a feel for what makes you tick, then they’ll ask questions!
But whatever you do just be your natural self, as even if you trick someone into thinking you’re someone else then it is not easy to keep up that front or fake image in the long term in case a relationship came out of it.
4- Only go out with someone you’re interested in:
It sounds like an obvious thing to do, but some people go out just for the sake of seeing what could happen and they just end up wasting their time. If there’s no physical attraction whatsoever then save yourself from going all the way only to have a bad date.
Don’t go out with someone if they aren’t your type. If you are interested in someone who is not your type, then a bad date could be avoided by setting some boundaries before going on a date. You need to pay attention to the signs that someone might not be the right match for you; that includes too much texting or phone calls, too much talking about their exes, etc.
How to cope with a disaster on the first date?
No one wants to think about the possibility of a disaster on their first date. But, the truth is, that disasters can happen anywhere and at any time, as you can see in this article.
So if you find yourself in the middle of a disaster on your first date, don’t panic! There are some things you can do to cope with the situation.
First, try to stay calm. This will help you think more clearly and make better decisions. Second, assess the situation and see if there is anything you can do to help. If not, focus on staying safe until help arrives or until you can make something up that’s not suspicious and leave.
Finally, don’t be afraid to reach out for help from others around you, if things get extreme or if you feel unsafe. Obviously, this is only possible if you meet for the first date in a public place as that’s the first dating safety rule ever! Everyone experiences anxiety and stress during a disaster, but by following these easy steps, you can get through it.
Sometimes, bad dates just happen and you can’t always avoid having one. It’s important that you are prepared for the worst-case scenario and know what to do in order to make the situation less awkward for both of you.
Most importantly, remember that your main goal is to have a good time. If someone makes it clear from the start that they have a problem with you in some way, or if they are awkward or you feel something about them is off, then they’re probably not worth your time!