Do you feel that you opened up your heart too quickly to this new person, and even though you’ve only been together for a short time, it’s starting to feel boring and old?
If so, this means that you skipped a few stages in your haste and have moved too fast in the relationship. If that’s the case, don’t panic, the most crucial thing to do was to realize this. Now, you can focus on how to save your relationship, because it can indeed be saved.
Steps to save a relationship that moved too fast:
1. Define the relationship:
One reason why your relationship moved too fast might be because both of you didn’t have a clear idea of what you wanted out of it in the beginning and now you are just taking guesses at what you should do next. To stop this tendency, you will have to have a purposeful relationship where either of you isn’t afraid to tell the other what they want.
You need to be able to tell your partner where you want this relationship to go, and if you can, suggest the steps you could take. You also need to be emotionally available to hear their side. They also might have expectations and ideas about where your relationship should go and you should welcome their opinion to change things for the better.
Once you decided where your relationship is headed, you can set milestones, which will allow you to take things at a more steady pace.
2. Enjoy your time alone from each other:
One thing that could be moving your relationship too fast is that you are spending all your free time together. When we are in love, it’s normal to have the feeling that there isn’t enough time in the world to be with your special person, but too much of a thing isn’t good either.
If you are always together at the beginning of your relationship, the natural stages of the relationship could become blurry and it could turn into a more serious one before its time.
If you think it could help, set fixed days in the week where you see each other and can do everything you want on these selected days. For the rest of the days of the week, focus on the time you spend with other people, like your friends and family and you can give one another a phone call at night or in the evening.
This will help both of you to keep your heads clear and put your relationship in perspective. The point of this is to never give an early relationship too much importance right from the start.
3. Enjoy the present:
If your relationship is new, this should be the time when your relationship feels light and carefree. You should be getting to know each other, how you react to different situations, and what you like doing in general. Essentially, you should enjoy each other’s company whenever you can and not give much thought to the future of your relationship.
It’s important to know how to set the tone of an early relationship because you are still figuring out your feelings for this new person in your life. Granted: people date with different goals and purposes but sometimes the goal of going out with someone isn’t clear until you know how much that person means to you or how attracted you are to them.
You feel happier overall, which is a good indicator, but you shouldn’t let that raise your expectations too much. You need to guard your heart a bit before the relationship moves to the next stage and only then should you start imagining sharing a life with this person.
Since it’s something new, anything could happen, so until you know it’s something that has the potential to last, don’t treat the relationship as if it was a marriage. You can check this article later on why most relationships that move fast fail and it will be up to you to decide what to do!
4. Prioritize your interests too:
It’s normal to get involved in a new relationship. You feel excited about this new chapter of your life that seems very promising. However, it’s also important that you still stand on firm ground.
It’s important to remain who you are, and remember the new aspect of your life that makes it rich but it’s not all there is. So instead of losing yourself in a private little bubble with this person, keep your identity intact.
You need to see this new relationship as a pool. Would you test the waters first, while surrounded by your friends and family in the shallow end, or dive head first into the deep end and risk a temperature chock? If you chose the first, then you are thinking right.
Don’t put all your life on hold to dedicate yourself to this new relationship. When you are not with your partner, or they are busy with something, use that as an opportunity to contact your friends and go back to the real world.
If you already have a hobby, don’t forget to stick to it, and if you already had a specific day of the week or the month when you usually met with your friends to hang out: don’t pass on it. These are the things that make you who you are, and that make you live your life as you intended. A new relationship that is moving too fast can hinder these aspects of your life, so beware of the signs.
In the end, we recommend you check this article on facts about men that will try to always push to skip stages of a relationship and make it move fast. be very wary of those, if you’re a heterosexual woman and know what their other characteristics are!