Once you’ve fallen in love with someone, it’s hard to imagine ever feeling that way again about anyone else. But, one theory is that, when we fall in love, we’re really just falling for a certain combination of qualities that happen to be found in one person. So it is possible to fall for any person who seems to display the complete list of qualities we’re looking for.
Over time, as we change and grow, those qualities may change or even become harder to find in other people. As a result, we may find ourselves drawn back again and again to that one person who once made us feel so alive.
So, It is certainly possible to fall in love with the same person more than once. But how is that possible and how does it really work?
In what context can you naturally fall in love with the same person twice?
Of course, it’s also possible to fall in love with a person naturally twice. If you’re already with someone but the relationship is plagued by discord and disagreement, it’s only natural that our feelings would change. We may slowly feel the distance growing between us and even separating us.
Ultimately, we may find that same person alluring again when we meet them years later, especially if they worked on improving themselves. If they only look better, fitter, healthier, wiser, and happier; we can see all our good memories with them resurface and we may become intrigued by the new version of themselves.
This is only possible in a very specific setting though. So whether or not you can fall in love with the same person twice depends on a number of factors. This is why if you stay open to giving people second chances and not judge others based on a past version of themselves, especially after they’ve grown and changed, then it is possible to fall for them all over again.
How to fall in love again with the same person twice?
Now, if you purposefully want to make yourself fall in love again with the same person, there are a few conditions that you should make sure apply. So read on and find out what these are:
1- Some time should’ve passed since you fell out of love with them:
Obviously, if you want to fall in love again with the same person a new time, then the first condition is to have separated and stopped seeing that person for a while. You must’ve successfully forgotten about them or fallen out of love with them; the first time first. If you have never fallen out of love with them in the first place, then how can you fall in love with them for a second time all over again?
So make sure enough time has passed since you last saw one another to give that person and yourself time to heal, forget and grow. If you never fell out of love with them the first time, then it’s possible that your feelings quickly resurface when you see them. This won’t be called falling in love with them a second time because you never fell out of love with them, to begin with.
In fact, if you broke up with someone you loved, for instance, and got back with them within the same month or so, then chances are you’re heading towards a possibly toxic on-again-off-again relationship.
This doesn’t qualify as falling in love with the same person twice, especially if very little time has passed since your last break-up. Instead, this would be a vicious breaking-up cycle the two of you are stuck in. Check this article out on dealing with a second break-up with the same person twice.
If you are in a relationship and want to fall in love with your partner again, but you feel you need some time apart first, then try and take a break in the relationship. Check this article out later on for more on taking breaks in romantic relationships.
2- Both of you should be willing to try:
It’s possible to fall in love with the same person twice, but it takes two to tango and both of you should be willing and open to the idea. If you want to revive the spark you once had, it’s important that both of you are receptive and positive about it. If one partner thought the last break-up was ugly and now associates their previous partner with pain and suffering; then it will be hard to get over this impression and image of them.
However, if you’re both willing to put in the effort, you can rekindle the romance and enjoy all the same butterflies and excitement you felt the first time around. Remember, it’s important to be realistic about what to expect.
The second time around won’t be exactly like the first, but it can still be just as special in its own way. As long as you stay consistent and don’t give up, you stand a good chance of falling in love with the same person all over again. In the end, if either partner starts to take the other for granted or stops making an effort, then the spark of love may begin to fade once more.
3- Both of you should’ve changed for the better:
Anyone who has ever been in love knows that it is a rollercoaster ride of emotions. There are the highs of butterflies in your stomach and feeling like you can conquer the world, and the lows of heartbreak and feeling like you will never be whole again.
However, it is possible to fall in love with the same person twice. One key thing is for both you and your partner to have used your time apart to become more mature and to have improved, since the last breakup.
You should be wiser now and know what you want out of the relationship. If you can see that your partner has also changed and grown, then it will be easier to feel drawn to them and find them magnetic. After all, this could be an improved version of themselves without the flaws that contributed to making you fall out the first time but with all the good qualities they had and more.
So it may be worth giving them a second chance. There is nothing more beautiful than watching two people fall in love, all over again.
4- Your previous problems should’ve gotten solved:
It’s not uncommon to hear people say that they’ve fallen in love with the same person twice. While it may seem like a daunting task, it is possible to recapture the magic a second time around.
Another key condition for this: is to identify the reasons why you fell out of love the first time and address them head-on or make sure they can’t come back and haunt you again if you reconcile.
Whatever underlying issue you used to fight about multiple times before, or whatever reason made you grow distant from one another before, should’ve gotten eliminated fully by now. If the problems that caused the relationship to end are still present, it will be difficult to reignite the spark. However, if the reasons why you fell out of love have been resolved and things have changed to the better, then it can be easier to fall back in love with the same person again.
For instance, if you used to argue a lot about your partner’s night shifts or night job; and now you find out that they have a different job with normal hours, then it could be worth it. Or, if you used to argue a lot about your partner’s nosy, condescending, and controlling parents and you meet years later after their parents died then it can be possible to feel drawn to them again.
Maybe you even used to argue about rent all the time or struggled financially, but when you meet again you’re both more stable on that level, then again things could work for the better this time.
In any case, by taking the time to reflect on what went wrong the first time, and seeing that you’re safe from having that problem emerge again; you can give yourself a chance to fall in love with the same person all over again.