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8 Signs that he loves the other woman

8 Signs that he loves the other woman

Finding out there’s someone else in your partner’s personal life is always a difficult pill to swallow. No one should have to go through that, but sometimes things happen. If he has fallen in love with someone else, you need to accept it and let him go. Forcing the relationship to work won’t do anyone any good. 

Fighting for love might sound like a heroic and amazing thing to do. However, fighting for a man that was fully yours alone and “chose” to cheat on you be it emotionally or physically, is not always worth it.

Additionally, if he’s not even your partner but you like someone and there’s another woman involved, it’s important to determine if he’s the one entertaining her, leading her on, or truly in love with her. If he is, there’s not much you can do to make him commit and be faithful nor to make him feel a specific way about you, alone. 

Fortunately, there are millions, and billions of other men in the world and though you may think you’ll never love again, you will. We all deserve the same kind of love we give and we shouldn’t settle for anything less. So, here are 8 signs that he loves the other woman and that you should move on!

8 Signs He Loves the Other Woman:

1- He Doesn’t Show Much Interest in You:

When a man loves you, he will show interest in you. He will make time for you and give you the attention you deserve. If he doesn’t do that for you but he does it for someone else, it means he loves that other person.

If he doesn’t put you as a priority and keep inventing excuses to stay with the other woman or to be there for her, when she needs him, then you’re wasting your time. Being the other woman sounds like something horrible for a reason: It is something horrible! That’s why cheating is a deal-breaker for many, because the moment a man starts playing around or entertaining others, all women involved become “the other woman”.

At this point, there’s no “main” woman or “side chick” business or labels, at all. If he had a woman he cares enough about or a “main one”, then he would’ve never cheated, to begin with. And if he cared enough about the new woman, then he would’ve left the previous one fully. For this reason, “being the other woman” is a label that applies to all women willingly involved with a man that cannot make his mind up about who he wants to be with.

Being the other woman is also looked down upon and considered to be for the insecure, the weak, and even people with no dignity or standards. So, if he barely gives you the time of a day but he’s constantly talking to the other woman involved in this love triangle, and finding ways to see her, etc., you should run for your life. 

2- There’s no physical connection:

Men who are interested in someone will establish a strong physical connection. That means he will always find excuses to touch you, he will stay close to you, and he will enjoy physical contact in any way, shape, or form.

However, if he’s reserving all that for the other woman, and not interested in you sexually, it means he is in the other woman. If he has open body language towards her but he’s awkward and stiff around you, that’s another sign he’s not in love with you. 

But, you need to be careful with this one because if he’s all over you and just trying to be physical with you all the time and whenever he sees you, then it’s a red flag too. It may be one of many signs that he only wants you for your body. He may be with the other woman for stronger and deeper reasons when he’s with you just for the physical aspect of the relationship. This could mean you will end up last!

3- He’s Closed Off:

When a man loves you, he will be open to you about everything. He will talk to you about his inner world and share all his thoughts, feelings, dreams, fears, etc, with you. You’ll have long and deep conversations about one another, your life philosophy, values, priorities, dreams, etc.

However, if you’re an open book and he’s closed off with you, it means he doesn’t have romantic feelings for you. You might get tempted after reading our article and want to ask “the other woman” how he is with her. Does he does this with her and not with me? Does he like her more? Does he open up to her more? etc.

The truth is that there are no questions to ask the other woman that will make you satisfied, happier, help you move on faster, or anything like that. There are no questions to ask the other woman or any other woman about your own man, that will put your mind at rest. This type of behavior can actually be very toxic and self-destructive.

If there’s nothing deep or meaningful to talk about between you and that man, then he’s not yours. Plus why would you think you have potential as a couple, anyway? Who wants to be with someone that they can’t even connect with on an emotional level? Do you even know each other that well?

Remember people grow and change over time. Do you have an idea what his values, priorities, future goals, etc, are in this present moment?

4- He Doesn’t Have Time for You:

When you love someone, you always have time to be with that person even if it’s only for 20 minutes. That’s because when you’re interested and in love, you make time for that person.

They are important to you, so you go above and beyond to be with them. If he doesn’t have time for you it may be because he spends it all with her. In this case, we’re sorry to say he doesn’t love you the same way you love him. 

5- He’s Always Texting Her:

When a man is in love, he will give that person all his attention. If he’s always texting her when she’s not around, that’s a clear sign he’s in love with her.

It means he can’t stop thinking about her and he’s interested in knowing all about her day. If he doesn’t pay you nearly as much attention, he’s sending a clear message. 

6- You get the feeling he doesn’t want to be there:

A woman’s intuition is a powerful tool, so if you feel like he doesn’t want to be there when he’s with you, it could mean he loves the other woman.

A man who’s in love with you will make you feel like you’re the center of his world. When he spends time with you, he’s present. If he isn’t, he might be thinking about her. 

7- He Doesn’t Want to Be Seen With You:

If a man doesn’t want to be seen with you it means he’s interested in someone else and he doesn’t want them to know he’s spending time with you. It’s really hurtful to feel like you’re being hidden and it’s a clear sign he loves the other woman.

No matter what lies and excuses he’s making, if he doesn’t want to be seen with you, he’s still interested in the other woman and chances are he’s even sharing her bed. That’s why he worries about being seen with you or her coming to know that you two are an item. You deserve better, so have the strength to move on. 

8- He Lies a lot:

If he lies to you about where he’s been or what he’s been doing, it could mean he was with her. When a man is in love, he will respect you enough not to lie to your face. If he does and he doesn’t seem to care about your feelings, it’s definitely time to let go of the relationship. 


If you see any of these 8 signs that he loves the other woman, the best thing you can do is walk away. Though it’s possible to love more than one person, people always have a preference or a favorite.

If he wants to pursue something with her instead, that can be a hard pill to swallow, but you’ll be free to find someone who put you first, second to nobody and gives you the love you deserve. Check out this article on signs that a married man is using you, if that’s your case and the purpose behind your visit to this page.

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