Some people come into your life to make it better and grow with you. They bring support, love, respect, and joy, among other things. However, some people don’t come into your life with the best of intentions.
It’s not always easy to spot one of these people, but it’s not impossible once you know what to look for. Today, we will discuss 6 signs someone has bad intentions for you so you can be careful.
The people you allow into your life will have influence and power over you to some extent, it’s just our human nature, so it’s important to choose them well. People who have bad intentions for you will always show their true colors, you just have to pay attention.
6 Signs Someone Has Bad Intentions:
1- It’s always about them:
When someone doesn’t have the best intentions, every conversation will be about them. They will show no interest at all in who you are as a person, your dreams, goals, and aspirations. If they do, it’s only to subtly tear you down instead of supporting you.
Some people may not have the best active listening skills, but bad people are different. It’s not that they lack active listening skills, it’s that they make a conscious choice to dominate the conversation because they are selfish.
2- They make you feel off:
A person who has bad intentions for you will give off bad vibes. So, if they make you feel uncomfortable and you can’t put your finger on the reason, that’s your git feeling giving you a sign. Never ignore your instincts, when someone makes you feel strange or like something’s fishy.
Listen to your natural instincts and ask yourself why you feel that way around that person. More often than not, you’ll find that there’s something wrong with the way they treat you. Once you pull on that thread, more things will come to light.
3- Their body language is not genuine:
Body language can tell you a lot about a person because we all speak with our bodies. A person with bad intentions will try to hide those intentions behind a mask of politeness and positive body language.
However, it’s very easy to tell when someone’s not quite genuine. Their body language simply won’t match their attitude and what they’re saying. So, pay attention. For example, if they avoid eye contact or force eye contact to try to seem open, that could be a red flag.
4- They don’t have empathy:
When someone lacks empathy, it’s very difficult to believe they have good intentions. People who lack empathy are the kind of people who treat waiters badly, hurt animals, manipulate others, play games with people, and constantly lie for personal gain. Additionally, people who lack empathy will never be able to relate to you in any way.
They’re also not comforting or kind and they don’t tend to care about how they make others feel. If there’s someone who gives you bad vibes, pay attention to the way they treat others and the way they walk about people when they’re not around. You’ll find that they’re never nice unless they have something to gain.
5- They hide behind humor:
People who don’t have good intentions for you will hide behind humor to insult you, make you feel bad, and put you down. Allow us to set the record straight: meanness is not “dark humor”, it’s just being a bully and a jerk.
There’s nothing funny about knocking others down or getting laughs at someone’s expense. There’s nothing funny about belittling the things you care about or that make you happy. If there’s someone in your life who constantly does this and calls it “being funny”, we recommend you keep your distance and stop sharing things with them.
Check out our article on how to call a guy out on his bad behavior to learn how to act and what to do in similar situations.
6- They are expert gaslighters:
When someone has bad intentions for you, they will gaslight you to keep you confused. They don’t want you to be happy, so they will do everything in their power to make you feel bad and push their issues on you. Someone who loves you and cares about you won’t gaslight you or deny your experiences and feelings.
It’s hard to deal with master manipulators. It drains your energy and it constantly makes you question your sanity. However, it’s important to keep yourself centered.
Check our article on how to deal with someone who gaslights us, if needed. In brief, if you’ve brought up an issue with their attitude, don’t allow them to turn things around and blame you or make you feel like you’re making things up. You’re not! In fact, you’re on the right track.
If you feel like someone in your life has bad intentions for you, start paying more attention to their behavior. If your gut feeling is right, you will find one or more of the 6 signs we’ve discussed here today.
There are a lot of bad people in the world and they might come into your life to make a mess. The sooner you fish them out and kick them out, the better because you’ll make more room for good people to come.