A relationship is a connection between two people who care about each other. It is a two-way street and it’s important to be able to meet each other halfway. When you argue less, it means that you’re not going to bring up issues that might come out eventually and flare up later. You need to make sure to listen and give your partner the same amount of patience and understanding as they give to you.
Arguments will come up, but they should be dealt with in a reasonable manner. There are some ways you can reduce arguments and strengthen your love for your partner.
The best way to argue less in a relationship is simply by talking about what happened when it happens. This will allow both partners to share their points of view, without interrupting or fighting with each other, and then discuss what can be done better in future circumstances.
Other than this golden rule there are 5 more that we share with you in detail below:
How to have fewer arguments in a relationship?
1- let them get their way!
One of the best ways to preserve any type of relationship is to let the other person have their way. Even if you may have different preferences them your partner when it comes to how time they should take a shower or where to leave their wet towels, how about you just accommodate yourself to their way?
Let them do it their way and be happy about it. Try to move on from silly little details and not give too much importance to irrelevant things that don’t make much of a difference anyway. For instance, if you noticed that your partner continuously uses your body towel to wipe the floor after you told them repetitively not to, then you can throw it in the wash and then find a new hidden place for it once it’s clean.
You can even choose to put your towel in your bedroom wardrobe and not in the bathroom anymore and start taking it in and out with you for your showers. This may be a little tiny bit inconvenient but it is better than arguing and fighting over small matters.
In other words, try to be the bigger person, and instead of getting stuck in every detail of life to tell them how they did something wrong or how they shouldn’t do this or that, try instead to work your way around what they do. And find a solution to make your belongings inaccessible to them in the first place, if that’s what’s bugging you.
2- Only ever argue about life-changing matters:
Learn to play a game with your partner: before you make a big deal out of anything and spend 8 hours fighting ask each other if the topic is about moving permanently to a different country, putting your life savings into buying a helicopter, or something that can greatly alter your life.
If the matter at hand is a dirty sock on the floor or a similar event, then you can choose to nicely remind your partner not to do it and how it annoys you for the millionth time, (without losing your cool!).
Only ever make a big deal and try to find a middle ground through an argument over life-altering decisions that one of you is trying to make. If the decision is not gonna affect any of your lives 5 years from the present, then it means it is not worth a fight!
3- Listen more:
A simple thing you can do to reduce the number of arguments you two have been having is to take the time to listen to what your partner has to say. This will help you understand their point of view and why they might have this opinion on the topic of the argument.
This also helps them feel understood and therefore less frustrated with themselves or with you for not understanding their point of view.
It is important that both partners share their feelings, preferably without blaming each other for the argument, which will then lead to a more constructive discussion before coming up with a solution that both partners are happy with.
Arguments can also be used as a way to understand the things your partner wants and needs. When we argue with our partners, we need to listen to them and explore their points of view.
4- Clearly express your real issues:
Healthy arguments can help you grow closer and strengthen your connection.
But when an argument is getting out of hand or if you feel like it’s never-ending, there may be something deeper going on than just an argument about the dishes. Always try to tackle the problems or concerns you both have by attacking the real issue directly instead of hiding behind a fake excuse.
Be aware of how you are feeling before you enter any argument. If you are feeling angry or upset it’s not a good time to vent about problems in your relationship nor to try to address or fix anything. Plan accordingly, and find a time when you both feel calm and able to discuss the issue calmly.
5- Don’t get involved in their departments:
As this is the case of most relationships, each one finds a role or a department that they are responsible for. In your case, do not get involved or dictate to your partner how they should perform in their specific departments that you cannot do or don’t help with.
Make sure that there is never any question about who is in charge. You both should know what each one of you does in the relationship and it could be a silent or spoken agreement the same way each one of you naturally goes at night to his or her specific side of the bed.
There will be times when someone needs to be the boss in some departments, but that should be okay and understood and other times where the other will have more authority or more of a say on specific matters and that’s also great.
More tips to argue less in any relationship:
– Try to avoid disagreements by avoiding topics that you know you will disagree on;
– If you want to disagree with your partner, start by expressing your disagreement and then talk about what you both think and feel about it;
– Try not to take every little detail too personally;
– Give each other space.
It is not easy to establish healthy communication in a relationship. However, it is important to maintain communication in order to keep the relationship healthy.
Some people find it difficult to say “no” to their partners’ requests for various reasons. If this happens, then one may end up agreeing with their partner all the time and start having an inner conflict that builds up over time. This will lead to arguments that are often hurtful for both parties involved.
The best way around this dilemma is by establishing boundaries for oneself and asking the other party to respect them.