It’s hard when you realize that a friend doesn’t value you. Maybe you’ve been there for them through thick and thin, or maybe you’ve just been a good friend, but for whatever reason, they don’t seem to reciprocate your feelings.
It can be hurtful and frustrating, especially if you thought you had a good relationship. But at the end of the day, it’s important to remember that we can’t control how someone else feels.
If a friend doesn’t value you, it says more about them than it does about you. So don’t take it personally. Instead, focus on finding friends who do appreciate you for who you are. But until then, here are a few signs to confirm that your friend in question doesn’t value you at all:
5 signs that your friend doesn’t value you or see your worth:
1- They never follow your advice:
A friend who doesn’t value you is someone who never follows your advice. No matter how often you tell them what you think they should do, they never listen to you. They always have to do things their own way, even if it means making the same mistakes over and over again.
If you try to talk to them about something they’re doing wrong, they’ll get defensive and try to shut you down. They don’t want to hear what you have to say because they don’t see you as an authority figure in their life or not even as someone who’s smart enough to know better sometimes. All they see is someone who they can use for their own purposes.
Now obviously we don’t want you to have a group of “Yes, sir!” men for friends, but a friend who will follow your advice sometimes can be a good person to keep around. So if you’re wondering whether or not your friend values you, ask yourself if they ever took your advice. If they never did, then it’s probably time you question what they think of you and how they see you.
2- They cancel plans at the last minute:
A second clear sign that your friend doesn’t value you is if they frequently cancel plans on you. This might be because they have other plans that they would rather do, or because they don’t think that your time is worth much anyway.
If your friend routinely flakes on you, it’s a good indication that they don’t place a high value on your friendship or you time. They might think you’ll have nothing to lose anyway if they cancel on you which is why they do it so freely, and this demonstrates that they have a low opinion of you as a person too.
When we think someone has nothing better to do other than wait for us and then we still don’t show up and think they’ll be just fine; then it shows that we already tink of that eprson as having nothing to do. It confirms we already think of them as a person who’s time has no value and who simply doesn’t know what to do with their life.
Also, if you find yourself always being the one to initiate hanging out, and they never offer to do anything themselves, it’s a pretty clear indication that they’re not that interested in maintaining the friendship. In that case it will be worth reading this article later to understand what you do about a friend that doesn’t reciprocate.
3- They make you feel like you don’t matter much:
Another sign that your friend might not value you is if they are always talking about themselves or other people but never ask about you or your life. This kind of behavior can make you feel like you’re invisible to them or when you’re in their presence, and like your friendship is one-sided.
If you’re constantly the one asking about them, taking interest in their lives, and doing all the work in the relationship, it’s a sign that your friend or friends don’t value your enough to show interest in your personal matters. If you’re finding yourself in these kinds of situations, it might be time to reassess your friendship.
But most importantly it might be time to ask yourself why you give too much and expect so little, in which case we recommend you read this article.
4- They have no shame taking advantage of your kindness:
Lastly, if your friend regularly takes advantage of your kindness or disregard your feelings altogether, it’s a strong indication that your friendship isn’t as valuable to them as it is to you.
If you notice that your friend never did anything for you but has no shame asking for favours very often, it might be time to reassess the friendship and decide whether or not it’s worth continuing.
A friend who doesn’t value you could be someone who never takes advantage of your kindness, indeed. If your friend never took an opportunity to do you a favor, even when they had the chance, then it’s bad news. If they never went out of their way to help you, even when they knew you needed it; then it’s an ill omen.
In other words, it is a good indication that they could be waiting silently to see you in misery and sadness or that they’re the jealous type that only wants to see you perish. You can check this article out to try and see why you attract jealous friends.
In short, they never really valued your friendship. And that’s okay. Just because someone doesn’t value your friendship doesn’t mean you’re not a valuable person. There are plenty of people out there who can be better friends to you.
We would recommend letting go of someone like this and looking for a friend ready to reciprocate your kindness and add excitement to your life. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t see your worth.
5- They have no shame trating you bad even in front of others:
A friend who doesn’t value can also be someone who never takes your side or defends you to others. They might gossip about you behind your back, or they might make fun of you to your face repetitively, in the name of humor, even when it clearly makes you uncomfortable.
They always put their own needs first, and they never hesitate to treat you badly even in front of others. If you have a friend who treats you this way, it’s time to cut them loose. It’s not worth keeping someone in your life, that uses you and disrespects you in front of others just to appear to be cool.
If you tolerate this behavior, it can send a message to other people too that it’s okay to treat you with disrespect. And, before you know it everyone will be making a joke out of you.
Life is too short to waste on people who put us in such situations and who don’t appreciate us. Find some new friends who will treat you with the respect and kindness that you deserve.