It can be disheartening to reach a certain age and feel as though you have yet to find true love. There are a number of signs, however, that may indicate that you are not meant to find love in this lifetime. For example, if you are constantly drawn to relationships that are unhealthy or abusive, it may be a sign that you need to work on loving yourself first and healing this aspect of yourself.
Additionally, if you find yourself attracted to people who are unavailable or unwilling to commit, it may be best to focus your energies elsewhere. Finally, if you have a history of sabotaging your own relationships, it may be an indication that you are not ready to open yourself up to love.
While it can be difficult to face the possibility that you may never find love, it is important, to be honest with yourself today so that you can work on yourself and still stand a chance to find your soulmate and life partner.
A few signs that you will never find love:
1- You don’t believe in true love:
Perhaps the most telling sign is if you don’t believe in love. If you don’t think that love exists or that it’s possible for you to find it, then it’s unlikely that you ever will. If you think of all the other couples and relationships that you see around you as people who got with one another for a rational reason only; like physical attraction or financial support then you probably don’t believe in true love.
In this case, you will also not truly believe in values like unconditional loyalty as there will always be someone more attractive or richer than one’s partner, for instance. If this is your view on life and other couples then you have a lot of work to do. You have to start internalizing that although love starts with some degree of physical attraction and being compatible to some extent intellectually, mentally, and emotionally; a true bond of love and passion can be created between two people.
This powerful feeling is what’s called true love and there are many couples who feel this way about their partner. Granted, not everyone has this form of love in their life, as there will always be cheaters and toxic partners.
However, it is possible to find someone who lives so miserably and even lost interest in life since the passing of their partner years ago, for instance. There are many examples of reciprocated true love that lived on and fought all odds and you have to start to believe in it if you want to have a chance at finding someone special.
Other signs within this category also include being closed off to the general idea of love and being unwilling to take risks related to dating, in general. For example, if you’ve been hurt in the past and have sworn off relationships, you’re unlikely to find love.
2- You’re too closed-off and intolerant of diversity:
One of the surest signs that you will never find love is if you are intolerant of diversity. If you cannot see past someone’s superficial qualities, or if you are quick to judge them, it will be difficult to open yourself up to the possibility of a loving relationship.
Furthermore, if you tend to keep yourself closed off emotionally, it will be difficult for someone to get close to you. Love requires vulnerability and openness, so if you are unwilling to let someone in, it is unlikely that you will ever find the love you are looking for.
If you think anyone who’s from a different background, country, and culture is hard to get along with then you’ll be too limited to allow yourself to see the beauty that comes with difference and diversity. In this case, even if you found someone to love, then they’d probably be the same as you in every aspect; which is okay but a little unfortunate as you’ll be missing out on opening yourself to different and beautiful aspects of life. Indeed, there are many reasons to marry someone from a different culture.
In the end, if you’re more open to other cultures and accepting of diversity then the entire world can be your dating pool, literally. And, this will increase your chances of finding someone special that will make you their entire universe.
Finally, if you have a negative outlook on love, diversity, and just difference it is unlikely that you will ever find happiness in a relationship anyway. If you go into a relationship expecting it to fail, it probably will. Therefore, if you want to find love, it is important to be open-minded, emotionally available, and positive.
3- You don’t like to share your personal space or be inconvenienced:
If you’re not the type of person who enjoys sharing, it may be a sign that you will never find love. After all, relationships are all about giving and taking, and if you’re not willing to compromise, it’s unlikely that you’ll ever find true happiness.
Also, you may never find love if you’re constantly focused on your career or your own goals, without caring about others’ aspirations. While there’s nothing wrong with being ambitious, if you’re a workaholic, you may not have the time or energy to invest in a romantic relationship or to even pretend to care about others.
Finally, if you’re unable or unwilling to compromise, you’re probably not going to be able to make a relationship work. If you can’t see yourself giving up some of your own interests or desires for the sake of your partner, then it’s unlikely that you’ll be able to find lasting love.
4- You think you have all the time in the world to find someone:
If you think you have all the time in the world to find someone, you’re likely setting yourself up for disappointment. Love often comes when you least expect it, so if you’re not open to the idea of meeting someone new, you’re not likely to find it.
Again, let us remind you once more that you’ll never find love if you’re always focused on your career or other goals to the exclusion of everything else. It’s important to have ambition, but if your only focus in life is working towards a goal, you’re not leaving any room for a relationship.
You might not even realize that you’re doing it, but by putting your career or selfish needs before everything else, you’re making it clear that finding a partner is not a priority. If these sound like things you’re guilty of, don’t worry; it’s never too late to change your approach and start looking for love. Just keep an open mind and be willing to take a chance to try meeting new people. You might be surprised at what can happen.
5- You have very high standards:
You’ve probably heard the saying that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince/princess. Well, it’s true. If you’re waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Perfect, you might be waiting a long time. Try to relax your standards a bit and you might be surprised at who you end up with.
This goes hand-in-hand with having high standards. If you’re constantly nitpicking everything about potential partners, it’s unlikely that you’ll ever find someone who meets all of your criteria. Again, try to relax and go with the flow a bit; love isn’t always logical.
The bottom line is if you’re obsessively critical of potential partners and always find something wrong with them, you’re also not going to end up in a healthy relationship.
6- You think too highly of yourself:
One of the biggest signs that you’ll never find love is if you are arrogant. Arrogance is a major turnoff for most people, and it can make it impossible to connect with someone on a deeper level.
If you’re always putting yourself first and thinking that you’re better than everyone else, it’s going to be very difficult to find someone who wants to be in a relationship with you. Nobody wants to be with someone who they can’t have a genuine connection with, so if you can’t check your ego at the door, it’s unlikely that you’ll ever find true love.
Unfortunately, this attitude is one of the surest signs that you’ll never find love. You see, nobody’s perfect, and if you’re waiting for someone who doesn’t exist, you’ll never be happy. Instead of looking for Mr. or Ms. Right, try focusing on finding someone who makes you feel good about yourself. When you’re with the right person, you won’t have to pretend to be anything other than your true self and they shouldn’t either.