It’s hard to know for sure whether breaking up with someone was the right decision until you’ve had some time apart. Oftentimes, people regret their decision to break up with someone after a few weeks or months have passed.
If you find yourself regretting your decision to break up with someone, it may be worth trying to get back together. Of course, this isn’t always possible, and it may not be right for every situation.
But if you truly believe that breaking up was a mistake, it’s worth reaching out and seeing if there’s a possibility of getting back together. Who knows? You may find that you’re happier than ever before. But, if you want to make sure the break-up was a mistake before you do that, then read on!
5 ways to know if a breakup was a mistake:
1- The break-up decision was taken in the heat of an argument:
The heat of an argument can often lead to rash decisions; like breaking up with your significant other. At the moment, it may seem like the right thing to do, but later on, you may realize that the break-up was a mistake.
If you find yourself regretting the decision to end the relationship because it was taken quickly over a fight, then it’s likely a sign that the break-up was not actually what you wanted. Instead, it was a reaction to the situation at hand.
After you cooled down and had time to think about it clearly, you may realize that you still have strong feelings for your ex. If this is the case, it’s worth considering giving things another shot. The break-up may have just been a bump in the road, and not an indicator that the relationship is truly over.
2- Your ex reached out for a second chance:
If your ex reaches out to you for a second chance, it could be a sign that the break-up was a mistake. After all, they wouldn’t be trying to get back together if they were truly happy without you. They probably think that the break-up was a mistake too.
However, don’t just take their word for it. Make sure that they are willing to put in the work to make things right. Many exes try to get back together with their past partners even when the break-ups weren’t a mistake. So what you want to do is make sure your ex is genuine and honestly wants another chance.
On the other hand, if they’re not willing to fight for your relationship, then the break-up was probably justified.
3- This was your first and only break-up with that specific ex:
If this is not your first time breaking up or getting dumped by that specific ex, then separating is probably not a mistake. If you’ve been together for a while and have gone through a breaking up cycle, you should not think that this time is different. Unless this is the first time the two of you break up, it is probably a toxic on-again-off-again relationship you should let go of.
If you got back together after separating in the past and nothing has changed, because you just broke up with one another again then maybe you should move on. In other words, if this is your second break-up with the same person then maybe you should suck it in and move on. You can check this article out later on why giving a third chance to someone you broke up twice with already is a bad idea.
However, if this was your first and only break-up with this person then maybe it was a mistake. It’s very possible that the two of you were meant to be but that something has gone terribly wrong and you ended up breaking up. If you’re truly made for one another then you’d use this experience to learn just how precious each one of you is to the other and to never break up again unless it’s serious.
If you get back together be careful not to fall into the trap of turning your relationship into a toxic on-again-off-again relationship.
4- You’re still desperately in love with your ex:
If you find yourself constantly thinking about your ex or if you can’t imagine your life without them, it may be worth considering giving things another try. Of course, only you know what’s best for you and your relationship, but it’s worth considering all of your options before making a final decision.
So if you’re still desperately in love with your ex then you’d be inclined to believe that the break-up was a mistake and who are we to judge? If your feelings are reciprocated by your ex then it probably was a mistake then! If you miss your ex terribly, and you would do anything to get them back then consider taking them back. If they’re not on the same page as you maybe the break-up was the right thing to do after all.
In the end, make sure that this is not just a phase you’re going through after the break-up. Obviously, everyone misses their ex to some extent after a recent and fresh break-up, so maybe if your reason for breaking up was strong and valid; give it time and see if you can move on. If the reason was ridiculous, it may be worth reconsidering everything.
5- The good outweighs the bad:
If the good in the relationship outweighed the bad, then the break-up was probably a mistake. This is because when the bad outweighs the good, it’s easier to leave the relationship. However, some breakups happen for no reason at all and they’re still valid and just as reasonable!
But, when the good outweighs the bad, it can be harder to let go even if the relationship is hard to maintain or if it isn’t rewarding anymore. So, if you’re wondering whether the break-up was a mistake, ask yourself if you miss the good and remember it more than the bad. If the answer is yes, then it’s possible that breaking up wasn’t the right decision.