It is natural for people to feel a sense of longing for what they have lost. When you break up with a partner, you may still feel connected to them simply because of the time and effort you put into the relationship. You might also still have feelings for them. The possibilities and reasons for this feeling are endless.
The real reason why you may be feeling that way:
What you should keep in mind is that just because you feel connected to that person still, doesn’t mean that you and your ex are meant to be. It doesn’t mean that there’s a hidden, spiritual meaning there or anything divine about it. In fact, most times feeling connected to your ex only means that you have not taken the proper steps to move on.
In fact, you might be feeling this way because you made a few mistakes after the breakup and didn’t go on a full deep-cleaning spree of your life from any last trace of your ex.
You might also be missing certain aspects of the relationship such as companionship and intimacy. But ultimately, that should resolve on its own after you meet the next best person and go on your first date with them!
So let’s discuss in detail what mistakes or faux-pas might have caused you to think that you’re still connected to your ex:
Why do you feel connected to your ex still?
1- You go to the same place you visited together:
when you go to the places where you used to hang out with your ex, it can be really difficult not to think about them. But this doesn’t mean that you should for life avoid these places or stop going there altogether.
You just need to avoid going to these places willingly when you can. Choose to take a break from hanging out in this type of environment or visiting restaurants that will open a door for memories to pile up in your head.
The more time passes after the breakup, the more you will be healed from it all. And, in this case, you’ll be able to visit any place you want without feeling melancholic, nostalgic, sentimental, or in your feelings.
2- You kept their gifts:
When you want to move on and not be reminded of the past. You don’t want to keep an ex’s gifts, even if you’d feel horrible about having to get rid of them.
To get rid of the reminder, you can donate them to a charity or other organizations that will put them to good use. Or, you can give it back to your ex in person within the same week of the breakup, rather than use them as an excuse to meet again after you start moving on.
Or, you can even gift them to a friend, but only if it guarantees that the gift won’t be in your face all the time. Especially since the entire point of doing this is to get rid of the gift and not have to remember what it once meant to you!
3- You have them on your social media:
It can be difficult to get over someone you thought you loved. Sometimes it feels like they’re still a part of your life, even if they’re not physically there. On social media, it’s easy for us to see our exes on the ‘gram and feel like we’re still connected.
That’s why it is important to think about what you are doing and how it affects your current state of mind. If you are still feeling connected to your ex, then you need to stop following them on social media. Social media is a way of staying in contact with someone that you care about, but it can also be a way of keeping up with what they’re doing and feeling jealous or resentful.
Check out this article to find out if your ex is trying to get your attention on social media. If you think your ex is in fact trying to have digs at you through their social media, or if you find yourself obsessed with their feed and what they post, then you know what to do. Give yourself a break, remove them from your social media and move on already!
4- You hang out with your friends in common:
It is natural to feel sad and lonely when you don’t see your friends anymore after breaking up with someone. But the friends you have in common with your ex are not the support system you need, especially if they’re still very close to them.
You might be making moving on harder on yourself by being around people you both used to hang out with. This can prolong the pain and create unnecessary awkward situations where you have to talk about your ex, see them in person occasionally or even hang out with them so soon after the breakup.
In the end, we all know that when you break up with someone, it takes a while before you can fully move on. It is normal to feel connected to your ex-partner. Especially if you choose to still meet the same friends and hang out in the same places.
5- You keep hearing about them:
It’s normal to feel like you are still connected to your ex after a breakup. It is natural to still have feelings for them, especially if it was a long-term relationship and everyone still ask you about them.
Every time someone brings your ex up you might be wondering what it is that they’re doing and how they are feeling. You might be thinking of how you could have done things differently, or what would happen if you saw them again. You might feel like you’re still in love with them and want to give it another try.
But, don’t make any rash decisions, just allow time to pass. The more time passes the more people will stop asking, and the easier it will be for you to forget about it all.