It can be heartbreaking, saddening, and disappointing when you doubt that your husband has a crush on another woman. You’re not sure why he’s been distant lately or why he’s been spending more time at work. You start to wonder if he’s lost interest in you.
Before you jump to conclusions, make sure you have all the facts. Talk to him about what’s going on and see if there’s anything he wants to share with you. It could be that he’s just going through a tough time and needs some extra support from you.
Either way, don’t let your doubts create problems in your relationship that could have been avoided. And to help you do that, we have compiled a list of signs that he truly does have a crush on another woman. With these signs, you can either confirm your doubts and see what to do next or you can finally let go of your silly thoughts and paranoia.
Signs that your husband is crushing on another woman:
1- He cannot stop talking about her:
If your husband cannot seem to stop talking about another woman, and while he’s not necessarily praising her, it can still be a red flag. Obviously, he’s not gonna be gushing over her to you, after all, you’re his wife and partner in marriage, regardless of how close or romantic your relationship is right now.
But, if he likes that woman then he will at least mention her quite a lot because any detail or talk about her is simply music to his ears. He will try to hide his infatuation with her, but the simple fact that he acts curious and wants to talk about some aspect of her for hours is already a bad omen.
He will seem a bit too interested in what she’s up to. Maybe, you can’t help but feel a little jealous, but you try not to let it show. After all, he’s not the only one who can have a crush. You had crushes before too, and you know exactly what this looks like.
2- He makes up excuses to be in her presence:
It’s not that you’re paranoid. You definitely have a reason to doubt your husband’s fidelity. Maybe the reason why you think he might have a crush on another woman is that he can’t stop finding reasons to meet with her.
He’s been making more and more excuses to be in her presence, and he always seems to find a way to meet even if it’s with you too. It’s like he just wants to talk to her and set his eyes on her and doesn’t necessarily think about cheating or making a move; as he doesn’t mind you being present too. This can make you feel small, especially as the signs have been adding up and you can’t help but wonder to what extent he likes her.
Obviously, you can’t ask him this because you’ll start a silly argument, especially since you have no real proof or evidence. Plus saying anything now will mean that you acknowledge that he’s flirting with the idea of emotionally cheating on you.
Or at least, you’re aware that he’s engaging in some type of micro-cheating. And, in that case, you just don’t know how to act or what to do once you let him know that you suspect something.
3- He looks at her with his heart eyes:
One of the most telling signs that your husband has a crush on another woman is the way he looks at her. If it’s the same look he used to give you when you first met, then it is very obvious that he’s under her spell. Maybe, now that look is reserved only for her.
You’re not sure when you first started noticing it, but you’ve become increasingly aware that your husband has been looking at her with what can only be described as a lot of fascination. You catch him looking at her hands when she’s talking, or staring at her face intently as if trying to memorize every detail of her physiognomy.
It’s as if he’s fully hypnotized by her and he almost forgets that you’re in the room too. This is clearly crossing the line as you will eventually feel hurt and betrayed. You thought you meant more to him than that. But it seems like he’s found someone new to admire, and you’re not having any of it.
4- Everything reminds him of her in some way:
If your husband is fully hyped up when he talks about this woman, even going so far as to say how much he admires her sense of style, or how funny she is then it can be upsetting. But, what’s more, is that he keeps bringing her up out of the blue even while you’re having a normal day or quality time as a couple.
You try to tell yourself that you’re being paranoid, but you can’t shake the feeling that something is going on. You could be watching a movie together as a couple, or doing some other type of activity, and all of a sudden he starts laughing. When you ask him what’s up, he tells you that he remembers how that woman made a funny joke or how she said something out of place.
He can even say that a scene in the movie made him think about something she mentioned or an opinion she shared. If this starts happening often then you have to ask yourself and your husband too: why this woman is taking up so much space in his mind suddenly?
What to do about this entire situation?
If you find yourself in such a situation, it’s normal to feel jealous and even threatened, but try to take a step back and look at the situation objectively.
First of all, it’s important to remember that having a crush is not the same as cheating. Your husband may simply be attracted to someone else and there’s no need to panic. It will probably be short-lived and very temporary.
Secondly, try to see this as an opportunity to spice up your own relationship. If your husband is drawn to another woman, it may be because he’s feeling bored in your relationship. Talk to him about your concerns and see if there are ways that you can both make your relationship more exciting.
Finally, don’t forget that you’re the only one who knows your husband better than anyone else. No matter how much he may be attracted to someone else, he will always choose you in the end. So use whatever you know about him to your advantage and rekindle the spark.