It’s important to know when to walk away from a relationship. This can be the hardest thing to do, but it is necessary for your own well-being, life goals, and mental health. You should never stay in an unhealthy or toxic relationship or one where the man won’t see your value and just won’t commit.
If you are in a relationship and the guy won’t commit, then it is time to walk away. If he’s not willing to commit, then he doesn’t deserve your commitment either. Here are a few reasons to push you toward this necessary and healing decision.
Why does he not want to commit?
First and before we jump to explaining why you shouldn’t settle for a man that doesn’t see the point in committing to you, we will explore a few reasons as to why he is refusing to commit.
If a guy won’t commit, it could be because he doesn’t want to make a commitment. He might not be ready to settle down and wants to keep his options open.
It could also be that he is afraid of getting hurt if things don’t work out between you two. We all know that breakups can really suck and we don’t want to go through the pain again.
He might just not be ready for a relationship. Maybe he is still in the process of getting over his last relationship or maybe he just doesn’t believe in love at all.
However, the most common reason, and even if he denies it is simply because he doesn’t think you’re worth it, unfortunately. Take any man ever that talks bad of commitment or publicly display a player’s image: even men like that found themselves dropping on one knee and proposing when the right woman showed up.
So keep in mind a man can tell you he’s not ready for commitment or that he won’t ever do it but be ready to marry the girl of his dreams two months after having met her. In other words, you’re simply not that girl or the girl of his dreams which is just another reason why you should leave and go look for your own white knight to whom you’d be everything and more!
Reasons to walk away when he doesn’t commit:
1. He will waste your time pointlessly:
It is important to know when to walk away. If you are wasting your time on someone who is not committed, then you’re watching your beauty fade and your age go up while waiting on a lost cause.
Some people will never commit or they will never be the person that you want them to be. It’s best to walk away from them and even thank them for having told the truth and not leading you on or lying. If he won’t commit, pack your stuff and vanish because it will save you time, and energy and get you to the next chapter of your life years or a decade earlier.
2. Your self-esteem and confidence will get affected:
If you are in a relationship with someone who refuses to commit, it can be difficult to keep your self-esteem intact. It is important that you know that this refusal will affect you in many ways, and the longer you stay in this situation the worse it will be. You may start questioning yourself and wondering what is wrong with you. This can lead to depression or other mental health issues.
Regardless of the reason for their hesitation, if he won’t commit then you should walk away from the relationship. If he’s not ready for it then he will only end up hurting you in the long run by stringing you along and making you think something might happen when it never will. And, you will find yourself in a vicious cycle of questioning yourself more and more every time.
3. You will end up lowering your standards, criteria, and what you want:
You should always be honest about your feelings and what you want from the relationship. If the other person doesn’t feel the same way or if he doesn’t want to commit, then it’s time to walk away.
However, when we stay for too long in a “situationship” or a relationship where the other person just won’t commit, then we gradually and slowly start going above and beyond to please and give more in our relationships, while expecting less and less from the other party.
This can be very degrading and self-destructive as it will put you in the mindset of someone who’d fail at every new relationship. That’s because you lose the notion of what a relationship is about or what it is supposed to do for you too.
And you start feeling like you’d do anything to maintain a relationship, which is the wrong way to go about it as the other person can always sense your vulnerability and use it to their advantage. So even when you find someone who would normally be a very caring and good partner, they see and sense that you expect only the bare minimum anyway and they naturally slack off or take you for granted.
4. The more you stay, the harder it will be to heal:
The more you stay with someone who doesn’t want to commit, the more difficult it will be for you to heal from this insult. If they are not willing to commit, then they don’t deserve your time and energy. You have been told clearly that nothing you do will make that person commit, yet you are still here, standing on the edge of a cliff, waiting for him to change his mind.
This is not only going to make you lose respect for yourself, but it will also confirm to the other person that they have made the right decision by not wanting to commit to someone who will give their all and more without commitment, anyway.
So don’t wait for him any longer because there’s a good chance that he won’t change his mind, and if he did he might not stay for long. It’s time to walk away from this one-sided relationship before it’s too late and your heart is completely broken.
The bottom line:
There are many reasons why some people might refuse to commit to you, but it’s important not to take these things personally. whatever their reason for not committing is, it surely is not your problem.
Whatever the reason is, there is plenty of other fish in the sea who will make an effort for you and your happiness. So one thing is for sure; quit wasting time on such an ungrateful person that doesn’t appreciate you enough.