You’ve only been dating for a few weeks, but he’s already acting like your boyfriend. He texts you all the time, calls you, introduced you to his parents, and just seems way too into you too soon. In fact, he sounds obsessed with you and it just all looks a bit fishy now.
So what’s going on? It’s possible that he’s simply moving too fast and is getting ahead of himself. But it could also be a sign that he thinks he finally found what he’s been looking for and is serious about wanting a relationship.
In the end, the reasons are endless and we will be addressing the most common ones here today so read on.
4 explanations for him being so obsessed with you so soon:
1- You just played your card right:
So you’ve been on a couple of dates with this guy and you’re already head over heels. What is his deal? Why is he so into you all of a sudden? Well, you might just be playing your cards right.
First of all, you’re probably doing a great job of listening to him and showing genuine interest in what he has to say. Guys want to be heard and they want to know that you care about them, so good listening skills are definitely attractive.
In addition, you might be giving him plenty of compliments and making him feel good about himself. We all like to feel appreciated, and everyone responds well to flattery. This must’ve created what we called a “spark” or chemistry as mutual physical attraction is key to it. By making him feel good, you might be sending a few unconscious love signals which means you’re increasing your chances of hearing those three little words sooner rather than later.
And, that’s especially true if he thinks you’re his type and that you’re drop-dead gorgeous; which brings us to the next point. Maybe, you have read our article on how to look seductive without trying and you’ve been working on looking your best. It is no secret that guys are visual creatures and know how to appreciate a good effort that was put into your physique.
Finally, you might simply be exhibiting the qualities that he’s looking for in a partner. If you share his values and aspirations, it’s only natural that he would be drawn to you. So if you’re wondering why he’s suddenly so into you, there’s a good chance that you’re just doing everything right. So, keep up the good work.
2- He is moving too fast but you shouldn’t:
You’ve been dating for a few weeks and things are going great. You’re having a lot of fun together and you’re really into each other. But then he says he loves you and wants to move in together or does something extreme like that too soon. Whoa! Hold on a minute. Is he moving too fast? The answer is YES.
It’s normal to want to take things slowly at first, but if he’s already talking about a big commitment like moving in together, it might be worth considering his motives. Maybe he doesn’t have a place to stay and doesn’t want to waste time. Or, maybe he wants to use you in a different way.
Or it could be that he just moves way too fast in relationships, which is as alarming and worrying as the previous suggestions. In fact, it is not a secret that almost all relationships that move fast end up failing. So don’t fall into the trap and check this article out later to learn about the reasons for this. You can also check this article on facts about men that move too fast in relationships because he clearly falls in that category!
Either way, it’s important to have a serious conversation about where this is all going and the chances that it’s going to last before you make any decisions. But whatever you do, don’t let him pressure you into anything you’re not ready for. That’s not fair to either of you.
3- You focused on building an emotional connection before getting intimate:
Some may think that getting physical quickly can lead to love. That’s because some people think that the fact that sexual activity releases oxytocin, a hormone that plays an important role in bonding and attachment, is enough.
And, they think that thanks to this, oxytocin will promote love easily. In fact, oxytocin is often referred to as the “cuddle hormone” because it’s released during activities like hugging, kissing, and intercourse. It’s also been shown to increase trust and cooperation.
However, despite all this, it is more common for men not to care about their hookups or dates that they got physical with too early. That’s simply because once intimacy is obtained; it can sometimes look dull, boring, and even unfulfilling anymore to court and chase after someone who already gave us what we expect as a reward in the end of it all.
Heterosexual men are motivated when it comes to dating by challenges and rewarding experiences. So If you’ve been withholding intimacy and didn’t give in yet, because you’re not sure yet, or simply because you prefer to get in a relationship first; then this could be one big motivator for him.
Despite their best efforts not to think of women who get inside their sheets quickly as promiscuous, the truth is that most men just can’t help but like a challenging and rewarding courtship. And that means a courtship that last weeks without getting rewarded by intimacy before the man swears commitment and put his all in it to make it work!
So in brief, if you were getting to know, tease and seduce this man and took your time with it without getting physical yet, then chances are that might be the reason he’s getting obsessed with you too soon.
If you’re not ready for a committed relationship, and especially not so soon with someone you barely know; then it’s important to communicate with him about your feelings.
Otherwise, you may find yourself being pulled along for a ride that you’re not ready for or even trapped in a relationship that you don’t know how you got yourself in.
If you think he’s taking a genuine interest in you or you have noticed that you turned more than one head lately; then you might want to check this article on reasons why you might suddenly be getting male attention.